there were times when i should have been stressed over school, and i wasn't. it didn't phase me at all. and just recently i started thinking i was getting over this and attaching myself to people and things, but i get a call from my mom on sunday saying my grandma had just died. me and my grandma were really close. i remember some really good times we had together, but when i heard about her dying i had no feelings toward it at all.

so if anyone can provide any help it would be much appreciated.

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You are stupid, and therefore wrong.

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yeah, you're an asshole. it's cool though. at least you're aware of it. just embrace it man.

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its not that i'm a jerk to people. its just that i dont care about things. i will help people to the best of my ability if they come to me with a problem and since i dont usually care towards one way or the other i have a better perspective for things.

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You are stupid, and therefore wrong.

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Quote: from HatesYou at 10:14 pm on Nov. 3, 2009

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yeah, you're an asshole. it's cool though. at least you're aware of it. just embrace it man.

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its not that i'm a jerk to people. its just that i dont care about things. i will help people to the best of my ability if they come to me with a problem and since i dont usually care towards one way or the other i have a better perspective for things.

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Quote: from zombieman5 at 1:16 am on Nov. 4, 2009

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Quote: from HatesYou at 10:14 pm on Nov. 3, 2009

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yeah, you're an asshole. it's cool though. at least you're aware of it. just embrace it man.

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 its not that i'm a jerk to people. its just that i dont care about things. i will help people to the best of my ability if they come to me with a problem and since i dont usually care towards one way or the other i have a better perspective for things.

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my brother is the same way he has his nice moments but he didn't shed a tear for my father when he passed away, he's still an asshole but it's allllllllllllll goood.

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how does it make me an asshole though?

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how does it make me an asshole though?

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Quote: from zombieman5 at 1:20 am on Nov. 4, 2009

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how does it make me an asshole though?

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i'm just assuming you probably don't give a shit to a certain extent when it comes to relationships

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no i do. i try my best to have a really good relationship. i'm not saying i dont care about things like that. its that my body and mind dont care when bad things happen. its as if i shut down to bad things. i care for the relationship when im in the relationship.

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Quote: from HatesYou at 10:22 pm on Nov. 3, 2009

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Quote: from zombieman5 at 1:20 am on Nov. 4, 2009

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how does it make me an asshole though?

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i'm just assuming you probably don't give a shit to a certain extent when it comes to relationships

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no i do. i try my best to have a really good relationship. i'm not saying i dont care about things like that. its that my body and mind dont care when bad things happen. its as if i shut down to bad things. i care for the relationship when im in the relationship.

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You're just desensitized.
Yeah, your grandma is dead, that's really terrible. But that's just it. No further need to dwell on it. It's not necessarily bad, but anyone who is deeply emotional will hate you.

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but how did i become desensitized? that is when you're around something enough to where you have no emotion towards it when it happens again. but nothing like this ever happens to me.

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Maybe a therapist or psychologist would be able to help you figure it out, and change it (if you'd like to). None of us are experts or know very much about this kind of thing, all we can give you are our impressions and opinions.

My first guess would be that you shut yourself off a bit emotionally to try and avoid the pain, but I don't know what would cause it or how it can be done. A second guess would be maybe you're on some medication or have some emotional condition that dampens your feelings and reactions. Do you get happy feelings about things? Is it only bad things you don't react to?