Recently (Nov. 1) she's been going out with this other guy from her work place and I being the jealous boyfriend type have been having issues with this. Mainly because he's getting her attention and he's getting to be with her instead of me.

She's always on my mind and even more so now that it's taking over my concentration and focus. What can I do to help ease myself with not being so jealous?

If they're just friends, stop being so jealous. She's allowed to have guy friends. Maybe she wants to go out and have some fun, not talk on the phone all night.

However, if you can't come to terms with this, this will put a wedge between you two. As someone above me said, distance can be a relationship killer.

I get that it's hard to not feel jealous, especially since you're not there with her. However, you can't keep her from seeing other guys *as friends*.

If you're really this bothered by it, this is something you need to discuss with her. Clearly it's an issue for you, but we can't tell you what you should do about it. That's something you two need to decide as a couple.

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Having been in one myself in the past, I know how must stress a long distance relationship can put on individuals.  I'm sad to say that sometimes love isnt' the only thing needed to keep people together.  The stress that you're feeling, and the distrust that starts forming, and sometimes the need for something "physical" can result in an emotional distance beeing formed between both of you.

At this point, you can only talk to her and get her reassurance and feelings on your current relationship.  And other than that, you just have to accept that this is what a long distance relatinship will bring.  Much stress, much worry, and jealousy for those that get the benefit of being with the person you wish to see.

All in all, if you trust her, then you have to let that be your guide.  If you trust her, then there's no reason to be jealous.  She chose YOU, even despite the distance.  If anything, other people should be jealous of that fact.

I have told her and may have gotten a little concerned/clingy/possessive but we worked it out. She knows how much I care about her. She fought for me for 6 years and now we've been together 6 official months, almost 2 years of getting closer. I really do love her and she is my one.

Distance is a relationship killer but we've been at this for 2 years. It is hard not to feel jealous, but I'm learning to accept it.

And yes I do know how hard distance can be.

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jealousy has a habit of accompanying caring

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Other than that, agree with most of your advice.

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