First post:
I am 24 and just lost my virginity last night. Almost all my friend lost their virginity during teenage, so I told my bf that I have had sex with few person before but when I saw his penis size, I almost fainted, he is about 9" and very very thick around. I thinks his size is abnormal as I expecting something about 5". I am afraid that he will find out i was a virgin if he hurt me a lot.

I just told him that I never have sex with this big size before and hope he can take it slow. When he penetrate me, he try to make it slow but look like my vagina is very small and he need to thrust hard. Once he get the head inside, the pain was horrible, I felt like my vagina stretch beyond the limit and split, I try to control not to scream even it is too painful for me to handle, hopping he did not not notice I am a virgin. He keep telling me that I am tighter than the virgin he had sex before. I understand that the pain is from my hymen and the painful part was over (I think).

It is not easy for him to push inside me (may be he is too big or I am too small), each heavy push only able to enter me a little bit, once he enter a little more, the stretching pain appear again and split me into half again. This continue for few thrust (may be 9~10 thrust) and then he come, it is not easy for me to handle every thrust. He said he just enter me about 3.5" and he come so quickly due to my tightness. He said will have sex again next week and I am afraid the remaining 5.5" will continue to hurt me like that.

I have a few question:
1) Is his size abnormal?
2) Is this size not suitable for a first timer?
3) Is the pain I felt normal to a girl when she lost her virginity? or it is too much for me to handle?
4) I felt my vagina split, it is really split?
5) Everybody talking about hymen breaking pain, why I felt the stretching pain was more than hymen tearing?
6) I actually bleed a lot but just told him is due to his size. Do you think that he notice that I was a virgin?

I'm going to respond to the whole thing if that's ok. I'm also going to start with your original questions:

1. No ABNORMAL, but definitely above average. Average is about 6 or so.

2. There is no "suitable" size. Either way, some girls have more pain than others. In theory, the vagina can stretch to accommodate any size. However, sometimes it just takes a little time to adjust to the feeling.

3. It's normal to feel pain on your first time. How much pain varies from girl to girl, but having pain IS normal. Is it too much for you to handle? Well, that's up to you.

4. The "splitting" feeling isn't exactly uncommon. If you happen to be particularly tight, you're likely to be in a little more pain. It's not actually SPLIT, but that doesn't mean it's not painful. Definitely use more lube if necessary, and don't skimp on foreplay. Also, you might try just switching positions. Sometimes a change in angle can make a big difference.

5. The stretching (and even the splitting) feelings would be the hymen tearing, correct.

6. Some girls bleed more than others on their first time. It's perfectly normal. As for if he'll figure it out, it's hard to say. Better to just come clean if you're really that worried about it.

I'd also like to add that lying about your virginity isn't the best idea. It puts you in situations like this for one thing, where now you're worried he's going to find out. It also means he's probably not going to pay as much attention to being excessively gentle. And really, lying about it gets you nowhere.

Second time: It varies from girl to girl. At the very least, there should be IMPROVEMENT. You'd be surprised by the wide variance. Some girls, like you, have a LOT of pain on their first time, and some have none. It goes the same for the second time. From the sound of it, its possible you might be a little sore after the second time as well. That's normal, sometimes it just takes a little time for the body to adjust. It's hard to say how much pain you'll have, or if it will even hurt at all. Again though, as I said above, there are things you can do to help with it (i.e. lube, extra foreplay, changing positions). Also, if you're in that much pain, especially after, take one or two Tylenol. It will just take the edge off a little, and it's just Tylenol, so it's safe.

Hope this helps, feel free to PM me if I can help any more.  

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CrackerJax
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okay "ur a virgin and u had sex with someone whos about 10 inch?, damnnn of course its going to hurt ALOTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT but, once u get use to it i bet it wont hrt, but really i dont think its suitable for a first timer...

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Suddenly, I feel bad for my ex.

Also you shouldn't have lied to him, it's just not worth it, OP.

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Don't stop.

1) Is his size abnormal?
No his size is not normal. It is not rare but guys have a tendency to exaggerate when it comes to their size.  Unless you put a measuring tape to it you don't really know.  However it doesn't matter because it still hurt you.

2) Is this size not suitable for a first timer?
From a personal perspective it is girth that creates the problem, not length.  Average girth is around 5 inches.  He could be 9 inches long with a 5 inch girth and it would not feel any different than if he was 6 inches long except if he thrust too deeply and hit your cervix.

3) Is the pain I felt normal to a girl when she lost her virginity? or it is too much for me to handle?

It depends on how long it had been since you lost your virginity and if your hymen was penetrated and torn.

4) I felt my vagina split, it is really split?
Perhaps stretched is a better description.  However it is possible that there is an abrasion that needs to heal before you attempt again.

5) Everybody talking about hymen breaking pain, why I felt the stretching pain was more than hymen tearing?
Improper lubrication, not being ready or excited enough and perhaps being extremely nervous after seeing the size of his penis caused you to become tense.  This will only make it worse.  

6) I actually bleed a lot but just told him is due to his size. Do you think that he notice that I was a virgin?
This is the part that I can't comprehend or accept.  Why are you so concerned about him knowing if you were a virgin.  There is no disgrace and in fact it makes you special to be one.  Losing your virginity to a person that is patient, loving, caring and concerned about your pleasure and comfort is more important.  He is telling you that you will have sex with him next week?  Come on it is you that needs to determine if you want to have sex with him.  I doubt he is deserving.

I think you need to rethink if he is the right one to share your first sex experiences with and it's not because of the size of his weenie.  Sex without a strong mutual emotional feeling for each other is no better than masturbation to me.  The biggest sex organ is the brain and if it doesn't function properly nothing else is going to.  

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BTW....Crackerjax gave you a really good response. I will attempt to respond with honest answers as well but from a male perspective.  

1) Is his size abnormal?
No his size is not normal. It is not rare but guys have a tendency to exaggerate when it comes to their size. Unless you put a measuring tape to it you don't really know. However it doesn't matter because it still hurt you.
 
2) Is this size not suitable for a first timer?  
From a personal perspective it is girth that creates the problem, not length. Average girth is around 5 inches. He could be 9 inches long with a 5 inch girth and it would not feel any different than if he was 6 inches long except if he thrust too deeply and hit your cervix.

3) Is the pain I felt normal to a girl when she lost her virginity? or it is too much for me to handle?  

It depends on how long it had been since you lost your virginity and if your hymen was penetrated and torn.

4) I felt my vagina split, it is really split?  
Perhaps stretched is a better description. However it is possible that there is an abrasion that needs to heal before you attempt again.  

5) Everybody talking about hymen breaking pain, why I felt the stretching pain was more than hymen tearing?
Improper lubrication, not being ready or excited enough and perhaps being extremely nervous after seeing the size of his penis caused you to become tense. This will only make it worse.
 
6) I actually bleed a lot but just told him is due to his size. Do you think that he notice that I was a virgin?
This is the part that I can't comprehend or accept. Why are you so concerned about him knowing if you were a virgin. There is no disgrace and in fact it makes you special to be one. Losing your virginity to a person that is patient, loving, caring and concerned about your pleasure and comfort is more important. He is telling you that you will have sex with him next week? Come on it is you that needs to determine if you want to have sex with him. I doubt he is deserving.

I think you need to rethink if he is the right one to share your first sex experiences with and it's not because of the size of his weenie. Sex without a strong mutual emotional feeling for each other is no better than masturbation to me. The biggest sex organ is the brain and if it doesn't function properly nothing else is going to.

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Very well said.  

A not on your response to #6: I'm impressed by your insight. And I agree, giving your virginity to someone is really special. It's something that ANYONE should appreciate. You have NO reason to be ashamed of it. If anything, it just shows you wanted someone special.

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CrackerJax
-Molly/17-
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