Really, you need to take a few steps back from her to give yourself a break. Some people latch onto us with hope we will sort out their baggage. When they don't get their way, then they start on us much in the same way as her.
If she gets on at you again, just tell her to leave off. As soon as she sees you're not playing her game, she'll move on to somebody else.
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If you believe in yourself good things,
then go do it.