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( Dooby123 )
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Ok so the bottom line is, I've been sleeping with this guy for over a year now, it's kinda of just a friend with benefits thing, however I've been trapped into the cliche of falling for him - big time.
I sleep with him pretty much everyweekend and it's not the kind of sex where afterwards either of us just get up and go, we always cuddle, I stop at his, meet his mum in the morning etc.
I know he was really hurt by a girl a few years back that totally blew him off, he says he's not wanting a relationship, but I don't know if it's from the experiences he's had and all that ?
He's not the type of guy to be really talkative about stuff like this either so it's not like I can straight up ask him if he wants anything further.
I always see him on nights out in town, we sit and chat have a dance and all that and if he see's me with another guy, even if it's just talking he always asks me who it is, but not before saing 'im not bothered like, but who was that ?'
I know we really care about eachother- after a year how can you not ? But i'm seriously falling for him and I don't know if I should just put ym barriers back up.
he's such a caring sweet lovely bloke and I know he'd do anyhting for me but what can I do without asking him if anything more is ever going to come of this ?
I've talked to his friends 'cos I really get on with them, and they've said that it's obvious he truley cares for me and maybe something could come of it but I don't wanna become 'desperate' or keep just having random sex with him and making myself look an idiot.
The sex is great, we get on great, we can be outselves around eachtoher, but I just don't know how to approach the situation ?
He says he loves having fun etc but even if it's just me being hopeful I know that theres something more - definately.
What do I do ?
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What die hell?
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badmanbean
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Sit him down and have a heart to heart with him it your heart that is one the platter here talk to him before you got more emotionally involved and then it will hurt all the more.
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( Dooby123 )
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sorry think I posted this in the wrong bit 
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LoveKay
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He is going to have to open up. If he feels the same way, he will most likely eventually tell you but you can speed it up and increases the changes by asking him questions. Pick a good time... like try when you two are cuddling and relaxing together. Don't make them sound like prying questions, but ask him what he thinks you two are--if he asks like what, say like friends with benefits or friends or what? Ask him how he feels about the situation you two are in--being friends with benefits and where he sees this going. Make him feel good by telling him you enjoy being around him. But dont ask about whether he has feelings for you unless it leads there. Leave it for another night,
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gucciva
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But what do you want? You have sex, you chat, go out, dance... feel great. Do you really need that he says to you "we are in relationship"?
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( Dooby123 )
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Well yeah, 'cos I know it's not official and in the past year I know we've both been with other people, but it's got to the point now where I just want it to be the two of us rather than hearing about other people being involved with him aswell.
I'm gonna have to talk to him like you said LoveKay, I jsut really don't know how to go about it at all.
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