I've always coped, sort of, without having proper friends. I just hang around people I know at school, no more.
I haven't had anyone around my house for a year or so now. It just doesn't work. Culture crash.
I was born in Sweden, with Polish parents. And we live in Portugal. And I speak English too.

This mix-up doesn't work so well. I don't really have my own country. If I went back now to Sweden, my accent would suck, and I just don't fit in anywhere any more.

Portuguese are sort of anti-foreigners. Most people are anyway.
So what do I do?

Nuffink. Weekends I do what I usually do: Orchestra practice for half the day, then usually I stay at home watching TV or go to church.
And Sundays? Sometimes I go play football with the guys downtown. Or I oversleep and watch TV or go to the beach if it's good weather with my family.

Fuck, I hardly ever do anything with friends. Well duh, I don't really have any.

By the way, I find solace in music. Practice is relaxing, when everyone plays right. But when I feel swept away, is at the concerts. The music fills everyone, and just for those 5 minutes of the piece, I am in a different place.

Frankly, I have no time to go out. I'm too busy trying to be ace at school, or trying to be ace in music, which I have about 5 hours a week.

I'm kinda hoping Uni might bring me socially closer.

Otherwise I mess around with my younger brothers, or just hang around my family.

And yall who speak to me on LW, thanks. At least then I don't feel like an alien who never talks to anyone.

I don't even have a smiley that expresses anything I am now.
I'm just... and something else at the same time.

I hope I'm not the only one.

And whoever read this to the end,  Thank You

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I think, therefore we have nothing in common

There is only one guarantee in life, and that is NOW.

[: It's understandable.

NOW LOLOLOLOL

LETS LYK DO A SOLO! YOU PLAY THE SAXAPHONE AND I DO THE ACOUSTIC GUITAAAHHHHRRRR

Maybe it's just your lack of confidence.. I'm guessing, because other than that I don't see what's stopping it !  

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'Coz if you're not really there, then the stars don't even matter.

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I understand and respect who you are.

 
[: It's understandable.  

NOW LOLOLOLOL

LETS LYK DO A SOLO! YOU PLAY THE SAXAPHONE AND I DO THE ACOUSTIC GUITAAAHHHHRRRR

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Ok, lets boogie!

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Hardly any friends? You're so pretty and you seem like a nice girl, why wouldn't people wanna be mates with you?  

Maybe it's just your lack of confidence.. I'm guessing, because other than that I don't see what's stopping it !  

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I have NO idea. Maybe I just suck at speaking and making new friends?

I'm just that person who KNOWS everyone, yet isn't a proper friend.

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You might just suck at making first impressions, try to be a little more inviting and don't act shy, because that might be your problem.

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Yeah I realised that.

Except when I try acting not shy, I'm a bit too much, you know, and people sometimes find me a bit in-your-face.  

Yeah I need social lessons.

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Quote: from farmer5123 at 12:06 pm on Nov. 8, 2009

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You might just suck at making first impressions, try to be a little more inviting and don't act shy, because that might be your problem.

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Yeah I realised that.

Except when I try acting not shy, I'm a bit too much, you know, and people sometimes find me a bit in-your-face.  

Yeah I need social lessons.

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yeah, its just something you learn to develop over time.

we naturally grow to feel more comfortable in our skin as we get older.

and once that comfort grows, we feel happy and confident with ourselves, and feel like we can conquer anything, talk to anyone. :]

It just takes time is all.

At least for me; I used to be SOOOO secluded.
but Now I'm always going up to people and saying hey. n__n

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Portuguese are sort of anti-foreigners. Most people are anyway.  

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Lol errrr.  Yeah.....  It was the weirdest thing.  I was born in Portugal, and I look fairly Portuguese but when I go back they still find a way to make me a "foreigner".  It's....   If you're used to it I guess it's not that bad but whatever.

Anyways, what exactly are your options here?  You're not actually considering moving back to Sweeden are you?  That seems really tough and errm I dont know...like it would just complicate things further.  

I'd say University will definitely get you more into the "social scene" as long as you make some effort to.  Meaning a little less TV watching and a little more attending social functions at the university.  Until then?  It's not possible to like...talk to some of the guys you play football with and go out with them to the bars at night or something?  Or go hang out with them sometime?

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Quote: from Manipulative Acid at 12:54 pm on Nov. 8, 2009

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 Portuguese are sort of anti-foreigners. Most people are anyway.

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Lol errrr. Yeah..... It was the weirdest thing. I was born in Portugal, and I look fairly Portuguese but when I go back they still find a way to make me a "foreigner". It's.... If you're used to it I guess it's not that bad but whatever.

Anyways, what exactly are your options here? You're not actually considering moving back to Sweeden are you? That seems really tough and errm I dont know...like it would just complicate things further.

I'd say University will definitely get you more into the "social scene" as long as you make some effort to. Meaning a little less TV watching and a little more attending social functions at the university. Until then? It's not possible to like...talk to some of the guys you play football with and go out with them to the bars at night or something? Or go hang out with them sometime?

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Well staying here does nothing for me.

I don't know if I'm that comfortable messing around at bars all night. Yeah, contradictory, but that's different.
I suppose I can hang around them sometime, but when is sometime? It's rare that I have time to go out, I'm almost always busy.

Plus, most of everyone I know lives downtown and I live sort of outside the city.

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