Recently, it dawned on me: it's because I'm an introvert. My personality type is only about a quarter of the population, and chances are that of the 75% of the female population that is extroverted, they are also seeking fellow extroverts.

I'm decent looking, and this is evident in the fact that most girls are open to me when I make the initial move. But a coffee date or two later, interest seems to peter off. This always frustrated me to no end, until recently when I realized that maybe despite my faked attempts to be outgoing, my introvertedness shone through and the girl just didn't feel compatible with my personality.

The girls who've liked me always told me how they were attracted to my aloofness and mysteriousness. I know a lot of girls say they like those qualities, but most seem to want a fun guy who doesn't take things so seriously. Girls say they love James Dean types, but in reality, they'd probably find that type too intense and remote.

So instead of being perpetually flummoxed by extroverted girls, I should embrace my unique personality and not be so disappointed all the time.

That's how I learned that I was polyamorous.

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