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abusive friend
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Replies: 7Last Post Sep. 2 6:26pm by The Mixed Tape
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ok my friend natasha is a really good person but she's very abussive she hits alot. she's a little crazy but thats fine im insane. anyway what do i do

3:45 am on Aug. 31, 2009
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Heyy.

Natasha doesn't seem like a really good friend especially if she's abusing you. Not only is this seen as harassment (to an extent,) but it's also illegal. If she was your true friend, she wouldn't even think about causing you physical harm. Things like that disappoint me in people, and for them to just sit there and feel like they can hurt you is wrong.

If you haven't already, you need to bring up the fact that she's been abusing you and you don't appreciate it. Nicely ask her to stop, and see where it goes from there. If it continues to happen, you need to tell her to stop again, but perhaps in a forceful manner. After that, the only real thing that you can do is to ditch her as a friend. It's not worth it in the end, and honestly she isn't a good friend if she's going to hurt you constantly.

I'd like to note that sometimes we do have something mentally wrong with us (not calling her crazy, but as you think she's insane, I thought this was appropriate.) We can't always control the actions which we do, and for that we need attention taken to us. Perhaps going to therapy with her could be an ideal choice. I know she won't want to, but you need to eventually help her improve her actions if you do think that there is something wrong. This would show that you're a true friend through everything. :/

Other than that, you have to draw the line somewhere. I wish you luck.
~Wayne

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yea its not just me she hits every body

3:45 pm on Aug. 31, 2009
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Then she needs to get help because things like that tend to develop more down the road of life. If she continually hits everyone, then she's either straight being mean and corrupted or there is something more beneath what she's showing you. Perhaps that's how she chooses to take her stress out. Perhaps that's how she's treated at home when no one is watching. The world is a cruel place, and we can never be too sure of ones situation and what causes them to act the way that they do act. :/

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yea i thought about that it's really sad it's even wierder because im pretty shure she wants to be more than friends but i kinda like her. i saw her today and i have gotten used to the hitting . it's still sad though

2:29 am on Sep. 1, 2009
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If you like her and see potential in her, than it's more the reason to try and get her some help. Even if things don't work between you two, you'll at least be sitting there showing her that you do care and can see past her abusive behavior and see that she is a true, hurt person. You shouldn't have to be used to the abuse, and something should be done, but progression takes time. :)

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thanks your a big help .

1:56 am on Sep. 2, 2009
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Anytime. :) Good luck.

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