I consider a large part of the problem to be that I can't talk. I tell her this all the time, that I suck at talking. Not just to her, but to anyone. I am trying so hard to change that. Really, really hard. However, I have a few concerns of my own.

One of my major concerns is that I can't talk to her about my concerns. It seems like she's incredibly volatile, and she'll take it far too personally, she'll think that I don't want her if I feel that there are problems revolving around her.

There's a fundamental difference in what we would talk about, and that seems to be the issue. I can only really have a light hearted discussion with a group of people. She can't have a serious discussion on an individual level. I... well, the subjects I'm knowledgable enough about to talk about, don't particularly interest her. I've never been a social person, and she spends 95% of her life with her friends. Issues in my past, largely revolving around my previous sexuality issues, have caused a massive rift from times before. We used to talk about a lot of stuff, but I think now she might be scared that I'll upset her like that again.

Ugh, I just dunno what to do... and I need to vent. I might go out on a limb tonight, approach her about it. But I'm so scared that that will ruin what we still have left, and ruin our chances for what could be. x_x

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Yes, talking about your issues might be difficult, and both of you might hear things you don't really want to hear, but a relationship is about accepting each other for who you are, amongst other things.

As for the conversation problems, have you tried talking to her about things she likes, taking an interest in them? Doing so may encourage her to take a little more interets in what you like. It's also a good way of broadening your own horizons.

Don't be scared that it'll ruin what you have, because it's also one of the only real chances you have of salvaging the relationship. You need to be able to talk, it's fundemental.

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My GF and I did just the same - I moved exactly 300 miles away to go to school and we needed to talk things out.

The good news is  - it worked. We are still happily together.

It's not easy though. You need to find some way or another to talk this out. Write her a letter if you must and say exactly what you mean to. I know that words don't always come out right during the conversation. If the two of you really care about each other and want to make it work, it'll work. I know you can't speak for her, but the only way to find out is to ask her. Tell her that these things are really important to you and that you care for her and want to make sure that things work out. Long distance is possible (it works for me,) but it's hard. If you go away without working these things out, it'll be hell - there will be issues, and you'll be 275 miles away from working them out.

Thus, it's essential (if you're going to do long distance) that you are absolutely on the same page before you leave. Get over your fears and talk to her - write to her - let her know how much it means to you that the relationship works, and how you need her to be on the same page.

Good luck. I have no doubt you can do this.

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Thanks for your advice, both of you :)

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When they leave me, they're all smiles.
When they leave you, they're in tears.

You'll be fine with the move, trust me. it'll be difficult at times, don't get me wrong, but it's more than do-able. I've managed it for the past year and I'm the clingiest boyfriend ever! Haha. Good luck.

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Now just because you have things you need too tell her does not mean you can't do it through a letter or something. If you can not find the right words to speak too her face to face then write her a letter and give it too her. This will help you ease the worries of knowing what too say. When writing it is easier to say what you need too.

If you both really do care about each other then you will find a way to make this work out. It can be done just focus on getting your thoughts and emotions in order. i do suggest you both sit down and discuss this. I wish you the best of luck and hope everything works out well for you both. if you ever want too talk fee free too message me

~Jessica~

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