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when to tell her I'm a virgin
Replies: 26 — Last Post Sep. 10, 2008 7:45am by RachLeigh13
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I'm 21 and as the title makes clear  I'm a virgin, I never learned how to talk to girls in highschool and when I went off to college I went to one that had a 70/30 m to f ratio and of those 30% females about 5 percent were single and moderately attractive ( now I'm not picky when it comes to looks but I do have a limit). I learned how to talk to girsl while at college but I never got very far because it was so hard to meet them. But now I met this girl and I really like her, we have been dating for about a   month and it just recently got serous. I dont know how to tell her that I have never had a girlfriend and also that I am a virgin. Its not that I'm afraid she will do something horrible or anything she is one of the kindest people I have ever met, but its not an easy subject to address, also since I don't look like the virgin type it would catch her off guard (by that I mean I am an attractive guy I just never learned what to do or say when I was young). I don't want to freak her out or anything.    
6:14 pm on Sep. 3, 2008
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Just tell her... it shouldn't be that hard...I would tell the whole world I'm a virgin because I'm proud

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well wheneveryour ready but b prepaired for backlash as she may take it offencivly

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LilyGoth

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Oh, just say it out in the open. Its nothing to be ashamed about, just say to her "hey, by the way, I'm a virgin". Who knows, maybe your girl is a virgin too?
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There is nothing wrong with having your v card! I can tell you that sometimes girls feel intimidated by "well seasoned" men.

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pm me if you want to tlk

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sounds like you really get on just tell her shell understand

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Just be up front with her, but make her know that if you are not interested in losting that status that you don't want to lose it.

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i guess it really is true... "Virginity is not dignity, but lack of opportunity"

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Tell her when you're ready. I mean, before you have sex, would be nice. :P

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I am not sure if telling a girl you are a virgin is a great idea specially if you are planning to have sex with her.  Do you really know of any girl who finds it exciting and completely fine to fuck with a virgin?  I have read here many times of girls who rather avoid a virgin guy complaining that they must be terrible in bed.
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Quote: from Chino at 2:17 pm on Sep. 4, 2008
I am not sure if telling a girl you are a virgin is a great idea specially if you are planning to have sex with her.  Do you really know of any girl who finds it exciting and completely fine to fuck with a virgin?  I have read here many times of girls who rather avoid a virgin guy complaining that they must be terrible in bed.

Virginity, or lack of, shouldn't matter. Love and lust are two different things. If a girl can't accept a male's virginity, or vice versa, there's more of a problem than the social construct of virginity.

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I am a virgin BY CHOICE and not because I can't score.  I'll go out on dates, hook up, and every other thing any normal guy would do but when it comes to sex I have my convictions.  I don't hide it so whenever the topic comes out or whatever, MOST girls look at me with disgust or in a weird way thinking I am homosexual, something is wrong with me, etc.  Or just tell me there's no way they would go out with a guy that doesn't give them sex.  Even think that I will be the most terrible guy in bed.
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I am a virgin BY CHOICE and not because I can't score

And that relates to this thread, how?

, MOST girls look at me with disgust or in a weird way thinking I am homosexual, something is wrong with me, etc.  Or just tell me there's no way they would go out with a guy that doesn't give them sex.  Even think that I will be the most terrible guy in bed.

I'm so glad I was raised into the atmosphere where virginity doesn't matter, but the people doing it, does.

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Being a virgin BY CHOICE does relate because one of the many assumptions a girl can make about a virgin guy is that he is a virgin because he has no luck with girls, nobody likes him, he's gay, etc.  I have heard all kinds of stuff.  That is why I have mentioned that its not really THAT necessary to tell a girl about it.

So virginity doesn't matter to you? It doesn't matter to pretty much anybody.  That is why it makes no sense to most people to wait until marriage and many even look down on those who decide to wait.    

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