Over the past few years his health has deteriorated. He has had several strokes and seizures even though the tumor has been gone for over 15 years. It is extremely difficult for him to communicate and he is unable to accomplish simple tasks. He repeats himself all of the time and gets confused often.

Last month, my step-mom put him in an assisted living home with a lot of older people. He is only 42! It is really scaring me. They live in another state, about 18 hours away, and I'm afraid that he may not have as much time left as I had hoped. I plan to travel north as soon as I can.

I just needed to get my worries off of my chest and maybe some encouragement. Has anyone else gone through a similar situation?

I have however lost a grandparent to cancer - which was a frightening experience because she went so quickly

I understand how hard this must be for you, but just remember, he is in the best of hands available - all he needs you to do is be strong for him...dont let your worries overwhelm you - this will only make it worse.

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My fake plants died because I didn't pretend to water them... =[

They both went into care homes, and I can totally relate to how scary that can be.

It sounds so difficult, I know, and a little harsh, but you really have to learn to accept the situation, because it's not going to change.

All you can really do is show your dad how much you love and care for him, and try not to be too scared of what may or may not happen.

It's such a cliche but you really need to be strong for him.

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Maybe I will never be, all the things that I want to be,
Now is not the time to cry, now's the time to find out why.
I think you're the same as me, we see things they'll never see.
You and I are gonna live forever.