Is there really that much of an issue? -- LiveWire Teen Forums

I'd find it weird definitely, it'd be more helpful if you gave us actual ages for those that don't understand the age ranges in US/Canadian grades, but getting to the point a 14 year old dating a 16 year old is not unheard of. But at that age especially because she is so young (not just purely the age difference but the specific ages that you two are) no matter how good your intentions are you will be branded by other people. If you and her can ignore what others say or don't care that much, then why not? Talk to her about it and see how she feels, because in the end it may make both of you feel bad if everyone is constantly at your throats about your relationship. Whilst it's sometimes hard to ignore what others say, and rightly so, try not to let it get you two down and keep your cool.

How you choose to go on is the main thing here. I don't think I'd do it, personally because I find a 14 year old girl (even if I was 16) to be probably not that mature physically and mentally as well. Also you are a teen with raging hormones and whilst you may not explicitly say you'd like it, you would like to have sex. I'm sure she would too, and you can't be too sure of her intentions considering you don't know her that well. That's murky waters there and it has the potential to bring hell on you both. It might not be very likely but just be prepared in case, you never know what will happen.

If you're interested in her seriously like you sound, then first talk to her about this. I also think her parents probably wouldn't like you dating their daughter because you're so much older than her, and it's not the best idea to anger her parents. If she likes you enough and/or doesn't mind what her parents say she will continue to date you (assuming she tells her parents and they get annoyed.) Again be careful here because if they are particularly moody parents then they can report you (even if you've done nothing wrong) which could cause problems at school for you both and at home.

All that said you seem like a great guy from what I've seen on LW so I'll say this: Approach with caution and try not to be blinded by your infatuation. You don't know what she's looking for and it may be different than what you want. Just make sure whatever you decide you are comfortable with. The last thing you want is to have second thoughts especially if you choose to date her, because there's nothing worse than going out with a girl you don't want to date but you can't find it in your heart to dump her.

Post edited at 4:05 pm on Sep. 8, 2008 by marshmellowman

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