Leaving my husband -- LiveWire Teen Forums

Okay, to start I have been married for two years. My husband was a great man before we were married and then we said our I do's and it was like a switch was flipped. He became different and I didn't notice till this last month or so. He's a marine and he's currently deployed on a meu, on a boat.
But let me explain why, I think I want to leave him. To start, I have wanted to fly planes since I was a child, so I have decided to go into the Air Force, and made this decision when I was very young, and for those who dont know, to be a pilot in the military, you have to be an officer, which means you have to have a bachelor's degree. I have a bout a year and a half left till I graduate.
About six months ago my husband decided to tell me if I go into the Air Force he would leave me. This was consistent until left a month ago on his deployment. He spread rumors through his squadron that I was cheating on him, among other things. He's extremely sexist, he told me I couldn't buy a motorcycle, because I am a woman, and he said I dont belong in the military, because I am a woman. He told me he didn't know how he would tell his friends that his wife is deployed......I just dont understand his state of mind. Because I have followed him, but he wont follow me. When I married him I lost a year of school trying to transfer all my credits. I would be graduating this year if I wouldn't have married him. I am not saying that it was a complete F up on my part. But I wish I would have waited until I graduated.
When he left he hide his power of attorney paper's from me in a safe that I didn't have the number to, which I knew they where there, but I waited 3 weeks for him to tell me, and when he didn't I just asked him, and first he lied to me then he told me they were there. He told me he didn't tell me where they were because he didn't know if he could trust me. I also dont even know if I am his beneficiary....Im pretty sure I am not, because he wouldn't take me with him to "change" it to me. I told him to bring me back the paper work to prove it to me and he didn't. I am getting in contact with some one who will let me know this....but it's gonna take time.
I told him the other day, that when he came back if counsling didn't help him, then I would leave him.
First he accused me of getting revenge on him for saying so many times, and I am not getting revenge I am totally for real on this.
But the reason, I am posting this is because I wan't others opinions on what I have decided. I am about to start a great job with a company contracted out through homeland security that's full time and has full benefits. The whole nine yards pays great and works great to support myself. When I start will be the defenant decision on whether or not I can afford to live on my own. Because I dont want to move back in with my parents. I currently work at applebees. But Im straying from my question. Is it wrong of me to milk the fact that I live in a free house until he gets back which will be later January or early February...possibly a year. Is it wrong of me to wait till he gets back? For one, I would rather do it to his face, then over a phone and mail him papers. I think that would make me more of a b**ch and less of a person. But at the same time I feel horrible because I am sorta stringing him along. It's not like I am with anyone else and I wouldn't do that until everything is final. I just dont know how right it is to milk the whole free rent thing.....
Oh and is it right of me to want to go out with all my girlfriends, who are all married, for a girls night out and go drinking and dancing...I personally dont see anything wrong with it because its not like any of us are trying to pick up men. We just want to have fun. He was extremly mad when I told him that.
But really is it bad of me to milk this whole no rent thing.

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