Quote: from Anonymous at 2:42 pm on Oct. 2, 2008
Right now i am finding it impossible to get out of this unhappiness.
Im constantly feeling ill and i feel so down. recently, my Boyfriend [who i adore so much!] decided that we shouldnt be together.
To cut a long story short, we have just been having a bad time atm, and i didnt want us to break up. And well.. I really need him.
Ive told him this and everything. But i am soo depressed about not being with him.
I just want to be happy again. But i feel so down. I can't stop feeling really depressed.
Its like my life is completely usless, and worthless.
I really dont know what to do.
-and i dont want to go to the Doctors about it either-
Please. someone help me!
I'd first like to begin by asking if you've ever been officially diagnosed with medical depression before suggesting possible actions following your immediate problem. Having not been active on this particular forum or the ability to see who you are personally, I cannot with clear conscience be able to give an indefinite solution to an incomplete situation. As for your personal issues, I am first genuinely sorry that you feel utterly alone. I can only imagine what it must be like for you, because I realize that my personal experiences cannot necessarily compare interchangeably besides relative comparison. However, if it is your boyfriend's decision to break off a relationship, you should respect his wishes to leave if you want any possibility of future involvement. I'm reminded of the two great cliches "It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved." or "If you love someone enough, you should be willing to let them go just as freely."
Why? Because one's decision to be in a relationship with you is a commitment between two consenting partners in search of a positive and healthy interpersonal interactions amongst themselves. When one wishes to sever such ties, the relationship is no longer an equal connection between one another, but dominant on one side instead. No love can last when it falls solely on one side to maintain regardless of intentions or desire to uphold such commitment. One my request for a friendship to resume, but that is ultimately left up to the other's discretion, not yours. My advice is for you to first find someone who you care about and are willing to share with thoroughly the same manner you might find via LiveWire, but this is merely a tool to help you assess your particular situation. What you truly need is face-to-face interaction along with a form of therapy one might find from pursuing a hobby, reading/conversing over a good book, exercise, etc. in order to promote healthy interactions with those around you.
As for your desire not to seek professional help whether by psychoanalytical therapy, consultations with psychiatrists and/or psychologists, or seeking to medically treat your depressive state, I cannot with clear conscience not mention this as a reasonable alternative to simply nothingness. Happiness is attainable even in our darkest moments. What we must learn for ourselves is to find how to go about accomplishing such feats seemingly beyond our immediate grasp in life. If nothing else you read and disregard what all I've suggested, do remember that you're certainly not alone and you have this person above all else to help you through your trying time the very best I can hope to accomplish.
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"How incitful of you, dwarf. Though I can't speak for fenrir,
I beleive that he too has a certain degree of sarcasm
and humor in his posts." - Prince o palities
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