About 2 years ago, I was in 7th grade and my bus stop was by a Coffee shop. Every morning I would go in there to get a drink or something, and eventually, I got to know everyone that worked in there in the morning. 2 girls worked the register and we became friends. They lived close so one time they're like, hey come over. So I did and we were eating pizza on there front porch and a boy walks out and sits.

I just looked at him, and he had to be the sadest looking person I have ever laid eyes on. I could just tell there was something with him. I started talking to him a little bit and he was really shy and really quiet and I could tell he was afraid, though I couldn't understand why.

Turns out, he also works at the Coffee shop around the corner, only during closing. One night I went up there and we were talking and it turned into an every night thing. I go up there and we hang out at his job. I'm 14, he's 19. We are just friends, that is all we will ever be so don't get that idea.

He said I'm one of the few people he can trust and that he feels comfortable with and he started telling me about his life. It's a very sad story. He was hit, no more like mauled by a car when he was 8. He watched both his brother, his father, and his best friend die. He's been hit and brought down all his life and the out come has turned him into a shy, timid, frigtened person 24/7. Though he told me everything except for two things that he said he has never told anyone before. He wont give me any hints except that it's bad, embaressing, it makes him cry, and he was 8 when it happened. (it was the same thing twice)

I really like him, he's really sweet. Now, here's the question. What can I do? I spend a lot of time with this boy, our age difference doesn't matter. We have conversations that I can't have with people my own age because they are simply not mature enough. I saw and see a side of him no one else see's, he's really smart and funny. I want to find a way to make him like that with everyone. He has admited to cutting himself on his shoulders and ribs and he thinks very low of himself. He doesn't have many friends and he has 12 sibblings still alive, and all of them are into drugs and such.

He's a much better person than that and I want to help him. Before I hear, we didn't need all the background information, he's 19 and you're 14 and you shouldn't be hanging out, he's 19 he can handle it, or anything like that, save it please. I came here to help someone in need, all I need is some advice.

What can I do?

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They're your lungs, use them or loose them.
Don't smoke...

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Let me just say that as a 14 year old dealing with issues that a 19 year old is going through, you are very mature for your age. I don't knwo you but I am happy to know that they're still supportive and caring people like you in the world and for that I tip my hat to you. Now, I am going to get what most people would say out of the way, see if he will agree to see a pscyvhologist, a school, counselor, or maybe even a peer counselor. If he is scared, tell him you will go with him and help him if he needs it. Other than that, continue doing what you are doing be there when he needs you, and maybe just by you helping him he will allow himself to open up and trust other people as well.

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Thank you very much. For a 19 year old, he's not very complicated. I'm sort of addicted to helping people, I don't know how to not help; guess that can be a bad thing.

I didn't know that 19 year olds still have problems with cutting and such. I knew they did, but I didn't think they had the same type of problems 15 year olds have. He has taught me a lot as I have him. He's like my big brother and I want to help him the best I can, even if I am just 14.

Any other ideas?

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They're your lungs, use them or loose them.
Don't smoke...

Most of his other friends are like his family, into drugs. He has done them in the past and I convinced him to lay off them a little and he is working on it. He's not like them, it's almost a form of peer presure

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They're your lungs, use them or loose them.
Don't smoke...

Anyone else have any ideas?

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They're your lungs, use them or loose them.
Don't smoke...