Thing is, I want to make a move, but I don't want to just be the rebound. I actually want something of substance. But since relationships are far from my forte, I'm at a loss. So... what's considered too soon, roughly?

Also, we work together, though that's not where we met. So there might be a conflict of interest there, but that's really not a huge concern.

FP

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Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand.

You're going to have to trust yourself to judge.

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All general statements are untrue.

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Wow, I always thought you were straight..

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... surprise?

FP

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Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand.

Make sure that you guys don't rush. Then you'll have the foundation you need to build a strong relationship instead of a heated affair that eventually flickers out.

He'll have to look at his feelings too and make sure he's feeling the stuff for you instead of feeling the remains of feelings for his ex.

If you guys connect at friends, you'll be able to tell when he's more emotionally stable and then it's safe to talk to him about how you feel and find out if he's ready to move forward romantically. Or interested in more.

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kid, I wrote back,
all lovers betray.

how long has he been broken up?

is he interested? I mean..obviously..who wouldnt be but if he is interested, rebound means less.

Rebound is not a necessary thing after relationships. it is totally possible to move straight into a new relationship with ease, if both people want it.

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Everyone who thirsts, come to the waters; and you who have no money
come, buy and eat. Come, buy wine and milk without money and
without cost.-Isaiah 55:1
www.wateringmalawi.com

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Wow, I always thought you were straight..

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how long have you known him?

how long has he been broken up?

is he interested? I mean..obviously..who wouldnt be but if he is interested, rebound means less.

Rebound is not a necessary thing after relationships. it is totally possible to move straight into a new relationship with ease, if both people want it.

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We've known eachother for about a year, but we've only really started talking for the past month or two.

Four days.

Honestly, I don't know; he's tough to read. Which I really like.

I just hate doing things with friends, because you're risking everything, and it could go so very wrong.

FP

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Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand.

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four days? I would say give it space. Keep talking, be friends, get to know him better, and see what happens.

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Oh, I know it's too soon now, but when is it acceptable? How can you know?

Fuck, I hate relationships...

FP

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Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand.

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Quote: from barnabas at 8:15 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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four days? I would say give it space. Keep talking, be friends, get to know him better, and see what happens.

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Oh, I know it's too soon now, but when is it acceptable? How can you know?

Fuck, I hate relationships...

FP

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when he isnt sad all the time? when it "feels right" I am a girl..its all about feelings..and knowing..

I would say when you dont feel awkward about it? and he doesnt still act...broken up with? at least a monthish.

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Everyone who thirsts, come to the waters; and you who have no money
come, buy and eat. Come, buy wine and milk without money and
without cost.-Isaiah 55:1
www.wateringmalawi.com