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Quote: from barnabas at 8:42 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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lol. Poor Jordan. you sound like you are on the right track.  
 keep persuing this one for a few weeks and see what develops.

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You have no idea what this has done to me. I can't even have hook ups without feeling guilty. I need this to end in some way, to know if it'll go somewhere, and know it was all worth it, or that it won't, so I can settle back into what I'm used to. As it stands, things are a confusing pile of bollocks.

FP

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LOL. were he and this guy exclusive?...you might try focusing on just this relationship, and stop your "hookups" for a  bit and see what happens?

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Quote: from FurryPanther at 9:44 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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Quote: from barnabas at 8:42 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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lol. Poor Jordan. you sound like you are on the right track.
  keep persuing this one for a few weeks and see what develops.

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 You have no idea what this has done to me. I can't even have hook ups without feeling guilty. I need this to end in some way, to know if it'll go somewhere, and know it was all worth it, or that it won't, so I can settle back into what I'm used to. As it stands, things are a confusing pile of bollocks.  

 FP

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LOL. were he and this guy exclusive?...you might try focusing on just this relationship, and stop your "hookups" for a bit and see what happens?

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They were.

Gah, it's so confusing!

FP

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To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
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Quote: from barnabas at 8:48 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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Quote: from FurryPanther at 9:44 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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Quote: from barnabas at 8:42 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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lol. Poor Jordan. you sound like you are on the right track.    
  keep persuing this one for a few weeks and see what develops.

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  You have no idea what this has done to me. I can't even have hook ups without feeling guilty. I need this to end in some way, to know if it'll go somewhere, and know it was all worth it, or that it won't, so I can settle back into what I'm used to. As it stands, things are a confusing pile of bollocks.

  FP

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 LOL. were he and this guy exclusive?...you might try focusing on just this relationship, and stop your "hookups" for a  bit and see what happens?

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They were.

Gah, it's so confusing!

FP

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i imagine he will want that again from a relationship, were one to start between you then as well?

have you ever been exclusive with someone before?

welcome to the world of relationships sugar. it never makes sense.

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Everyone who thirsts, come to the waters; and you who have no money
come, buy and eat. Come, buy wine and milk without money and
without cost.-Isaiah 55:1
www.wateringmalawi.com

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i imagine he will want that again from a relationship, were one to start between you then as well?

have you ever been exclusive with someone before?

 
welcome to the world of relationships sugar. it never makes sense.

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I dunno...he has expressed that he's missed the freedom of being single.

I have, once. Ended really badly.

Why not? Why can't it be as easy as cooking?

FP

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Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand.

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Quote: from barnabas at 8:52 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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 i imagine he will want that again from a relationship, were one to start between you then as well?  

 have you ever been exclusive with someone before?  

 
 welcome to the world of relationships sugar. it never makes sense.

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I dunno...he has expressed that he's missed the freedom of being single.

I have, once. Ended really badly.

Why not? Why can't it be as easy as cooking?

FP

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Quote: from FurryPanther at 3:58 am on Sep. 25, 2008

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Quote: from barnabas at 8:52 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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  i imagine he will want that again from a relationship, were one to start between you then as well?

  have you ever been exclusive with someone before?

   
  welcome to the world of relationships sugar. it never makes sense.

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 I dunno...he has expressed that he's missed the freedom of being single.  

 I have, once. Ended really badly.  

 Why not? Why can't it be as easy as cooking?  

 FP

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Alas, it never is that easy. But where'd the fun in life be if we were all following recipes, yeah?
If there's any hope of something coming of it, I think you'll just have to wait and see what happens. It's agonising as fuck, I know from experience, but it could be well worth your time if it does come to something good.

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You'd better be right. Because right now it fucking sucks.

FP

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Come away, O human child!
To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand.

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Quote: from Atti at 9:04 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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Quote: from FurryPanther at 3:58 am on Sep. 25, 2008

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Quote: from barnabas at 8:52 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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  i imagine he will want that again from a relationship, were one to start between you then as well?    

  have you ever been exclusive with someone before?    

     
  welcome to the world of relationships sugar. it never makes sense.

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  I dunno...he has expressed that he's missed the freedom of being single.

  I have, once. Ended really badly.

  Why not? Why can't it be as easy as cooking?

  FP

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Alas, it never is that easy. But where'd the fun in life be if we were all following recipes, yeah?  
 If there's any hope of something coming of it, I think you'll just have to wait and see what happens. It's agonising as fuck, I know from experience, but it could be well worth your time if it does come to something good.

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You'd better be right. Because right now it fucking sucks.

FP

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I know it does. And it might suck in the end, I don't know, but it's not worth giving up before you start if there's the potential to benefit from it, right?

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You've got a point.

I really hope this works out, because I've tried so many times. I don't know if I'd be willing to try again, after all I've done to settle down...

FP

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To the waters and the wild
With a faery, hand in hand,
For the world's more full of weeping than you can understand.

Basically, he started out as friend and not much else. They talk all the time though like they're more than that and even hang out with in groups. This lasted seriously about a year (hopefully won't happen to you as that did get stressful on him) and she took her rebound out on another guy. They didn't last long (the rebound and this girl) and about a month afterwards, they started to get even more serious together and are now dating.

You just have to take it a step at a time, listen to your gut, and do what you think is best.

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Quote: from Atti at 9:07 pm on Sep. 24, 2008

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I know it does. And it might suck in the end, I don't know, but it's not worth giving up before you start if there's the potential to benefit from it, right?

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You've got a point.

I really hope this works out, because I've tried so many times. I don't know if I'd be willing to try again, after all I've done to settle down...

FP

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