I don't develop crushes on people unless i know them for a period of time and see them a lot... is that normal? i dont just meet someone once and be all "omg!!!" about them. and not for a few times either. or even if we catch up for lunch. i like ppl maybe MONTHS after meeting them

I dunno cos my friends and most people i know seem to just get together easily and like people a lot.... i dont.
sometimes i have little crushes but it doesnt mean anything.

BUT im worried because guys tend to ask you out on the spot or soon into meeting u, and if ur not interested then they lose interest right? or do you just try to be in a relationship with people that you sort of like and MIGHT like more?? ive been seeing a guy hoping that i'd like him more, its only been 2 weeks, and he seems really serious while i just dont feel that way

but i dont feel that way about ANYONE unless i know them well

or do most girls develop crushes faster than me?

i feel uncomfortable when the guy is obviously expecting something and i avoid them.. so i dont even become friends with them cos i feel awkward.

pleas reply thanks

It depends on the girl herself. Some are like you (and me), others are fall in love with every boy they see... It's all normal... :)

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Yesterday is history, tomorrow is a mystery and today is a gift!
That's why we call it PRESENT.

To answer a few of your questions, some people will enter a relationship simply because the other person likes them.  Or simply because they think someone is hott.  It really does happen more times than not.  This is why I say that the idea of love and dating had become sort of like this memory of the past and now it is about two hott people hooking up and then breaking up a year latter.  

If you are worried about guys leaving you or not understanding you, explain to them why you do not want to date them.   Explain that it is nothing against them, but you just like to take things slow and get to know them.  They will respect you more for it in the end honestly.  They may not see it then and there, but when they have been in a few relationships, they will think back and know what you mean.   You don't have to avoid guys or run away from them, just when they ask you out, explain the truth.  If they cannot respect you for that, then they really aren't worth dating in the first place.  

-PLM

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