See, my problem is that I'm short. I'm really short, not like a midget or anything, but being a 5'3" guy in a 6' world can be a bit difficult. I'm 21 now in a university and working to get a bachelor's degree. While I appreciate all of the things that have gone right for me in my life, I can't help but keep going over one detail: I'm too short.  
It honestly makes me feel so uncomfortable in my own skin. I'd be a decent looking guy too (pretty fit for my age group), if I was but 5" taller, but as it is, I'm shorter than most girls. And, as you know, girls absolutely HATE this for some reason. They can stand the most horrendous looking 6' guy but dating a guy shorter than them? No way, they almost all say "my friends will laugh at me!" Nonetheless, I know at this point your going to say "not all girls are different, some don't mind going out with people their height."

Here's my biggest problem. I know this, and I know this well. In fact, I've dated a lot of girls over the last 5 years. But the issue for me is that I honestly never feel like enough to them. I'll date a girl for a little bit and CONSTANTLY be worrying about what she'll think about my height. Even when we're going out with a group of friends on a Saturday night, I'll subconsciously be looking at her height in comparison with mine.  

And, I know these are symptoms of an inferiority complex, but you have to realize it didn't just come to be. I developed these views after several horrible things happened in my life. I won't go into too much detail, but I've had three girlfriends cheat on me in my teen years. My girlfriend of two years lied about hooking up with my friend to my face. I believed her, but two years later we broke up and she ended up having sex with all of my friends. This leads me to believe that even if a girl does go out with me, she'll always be thinking in her mind about the potential of getting with a taller dude.

Furthermore, after coming to college, I gained a few friends, some good some not so good. In my circle of about 10 friends or so, everyone is really supportive of each other. The only thing is, I have two female friends that I've really tried to be on good terms with, but quite literally EVERYTIME I see them they put me down for being short. Like, I'll be walking down the street with them to get food, and they'll say something like "OMG I'm like 4 inches taller than XXXX(my name) tonight" and then the other will chime in "ya me too hahahahah you like a little kid XXXX!" They say * * * * like this almost everytime, not jokingly but they just nonchalantly say it randomely (like out of nowhere; I've heard the above sentence no less than 10 times at least). You'd figure we were out of high school by now with all the making fun of people, but I guess not. I don't get defensive about it, I just laugh with them, but everytime it tears at my ego and will just ruin my night. You have to remember, I'm a guy; I have some sense of pride. All the while I think to myself, they wouldn't say this to their female friends if they were really fat, what makes them think its ok to say it to my face? Besides, at least their fat friend could get skinny, I'm stuck like this for the rest of my life. Ugh.

Honestly, sometimes I'm ok about it, sometimes I get so depressed I just want to kill myself and forget about it. I've tried for so long to accept who I am and what I have in life but it just hasn't happened. I know I have no control over my height, but still, that doesn't keep me from thinking about it every waking moment of my life. Your all going to say, "just work on other parts of your personality and be funny", but I'm so torn up about this inside that I just cant. Trust me, if I could just instantly be happy, I would be, but I can't; I don't know how. Its a vicious cycle.

What sucks even more is that at 15, when I was dumb and stupid, I was desperate for a solution and started wearing shoe lifts so I would look at least 5'4" in my shoes. I know they're * * * * ing up my spine but I've been dependent on them ever since; can you imagine how much more crap I'd get if I just stopped wearing them? I hate deceiving people but now, after routinely wearing them, I can't just stop. I've been thinking about even getting cosmetic leg lengthening where they break your bones and regrow them, but its really costly and I'm poor. While I'm still living with this now, I can't even begin to imagine myself 40 and like this; I just picture a Danny Devito image of myself and want to jump off a building.

Post edited at 1:00 am on Sep. 25, 2008 by Anonymous

But what I can say is that I know guys around my height, who do do really well with girls. There are other factors at work.

The best way I can explain it too you is this. Imagine some kid getting bullied in primary school about his name, maybe it rhymes funny or something. Is the kid actually getting bullied because of his name? No, hes getting bullied because hes the kid that gets bullied.

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A quitter never wins and a winner never quits - Napolean Hill

Keep your chin up.