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Quote: from littlenicky40 at 12:53 am on Nov. 8, 2008

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Have a mature discussion with them, and how you're grown up and can make these decisions yourself, and that they're going to have to restrict your sister themselves. It's their job to keep her in line, not yours, you shouldn't be limited because your sister is younger then you. Be calm and prepared for this discussion, make it so it's like she's talking to someone their age.  

 Explain that your boyfriend means a lot to you and you need this freedom to make it work. Just be prepared with what you're going to say.

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I've tried having a mature discussion with them, it dosen't work, I get treated like a child.
And I know the main thing is because my sister will bitch that it's not fair to her.
But life isn't fair.
We are different people, and I know my parents expect more from her.

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I take it your sister won't listen to reason from you?

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Quote: from misssmadejavuu at 3:55 am on Nov. 8, 2008

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Quote: from littlenicky40 at 12:53 am on Nov. 8, 2008

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Have a mature discussion with them, and how you're grown up and can make these decisions yourself, and that they're going to have to restrict your sister themselves. It's their job to keep her in line, not yours, you shouldn't be limited because your sister is younger then you. Be calm and prepared for this discussion, make it so it's like she's talking to someone their age.  

  Explain that your boyfriend means a lot to you and you need this freedom to make it work. Just be prepared with what you're going to say.

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 I've tried having a mature discussion with them, it dosen't work, I get treated like a child.  
 And I know the main thing is because my sister will bitch that it's not fair to her.  
 But life isn't fair.  
 We are different people, and I know my parents expect more from her.  
 

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I take it your sister won't listen to reason from you?

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Nope, my parents help me out a lot, and they don't help her because she doesn't need the help, while I do.
She thinks that everything needs to be the same for everyone, I was able to sleep at my exes before I moved out, and then when I moved back home, things changed.

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I wanna scream" I Love You" from the top of my lungs,

But I'm afraid that someone else will hear me.

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no offence but your 20 and you still have rules, i would say that your parents are a little on the control freak side

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I am the oldest, I have a 18 yr old sister and a 16 yr old brother, they have to use me as the example.

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I wanna scream" I Love You" from the top of my lungs,

But I'm afraid that someone else will hear me.

Your parents also are probably just worried about you sleeping over somewhere else, and that's the reason for the rule.  Whether or not they want you to set a good example, they probably (like many other parents) want to protect you.

You've said you've tried talking to them, but if they stand their ground then you either have to live with it, or you can move out.  If you've done it before, moving out isn't so simple, and you really need to have some solid sort of savings to do it.

Try talking to them again.  Tell them that you would like them to meet your boyfriend, to see how he is, and then explain that these are the only times you can see him, and that driving around after midnight, after working all day, is not something you want to do.  Explain to them that you want to try and set something up for your future, and that for this reason, you want an alteration on the rule (maybe not every day, but some?) just because you've taken up an extra job.

Will it work?  Who knows.  When my mother came to visit, my boyfriend saw me much less than usual.  My mother doesn't like it when people stay late or come home late.  The only time we can see each other during weekdays is late at night, so when she visited, we stopped doing that.  Mind you, I've been living outside my parents house for well over a year now.  It's just a matter of knowing what my parents expect, and I'll uphold to that, even if I don't like it.

So it's your call... you either live with it, try to compromise, or move away from it.

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Nope, my parents help me out a lot, and they don't help her because she doesn't need the help, while I do.
She thinks that everything needs to be the same for everyone, I was able to sleep at my exes before I moved out, and then when I moved back home, things changed.

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I was wondering if something like this happened, to be honest.  Have you ever considered you parents don't want you to sleep over your boyfriends house because they are afraid that you will move out again?  I don't know why you moved out the last time, but if it's related... do you think that this might be their real reason?