I think you need to find a balance. I had a boyfriend that was similar to you in this sense, and it caused me a lot of stress. I do NOT find this to be love, but rather obsession (this is my personal opinion) and it makes me feel extremely guitly. Also add on to the fact that people in school would sometimes say I was a slave driver, even though I would tell him not to do certain things for me... Personally, it was stressful, and after a certain point, he started getting depressed randomly if I wasn't talking to him every day or things like that. It was high stress, and it made me feel constantly guilty, even though I really couldn't control HIS choices. I never took it for granted, but I did tell him he did too much for me.
All in all? I would strongly suggest you talk to HIM about this. Any relationship comes out of communication with one another, and you just have to talk it out if you truly want it to work out. Also, do you truly feel that you are appreciated when you do all of these things? Try to balance it out. Once and then pampering him is nice, but that's not something he needs from you 24/7, right?
That's how I feel personally. I'm just going off my own experience, and while your situation may be different, this is my view on it. Moderation and finding a balance is key in everything.
That being said, I suppose this would fall under A.
Post edited at 10:36 am on Nov. 8, 2008 by Just Waiting Here
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