Rightio. This is what I am talking about right here, dear. This is different than just obsessive compulsive behavior, which is why I said that you should start with symptoms and arrive at a conclusion, and not start with the conclusion and back it up with interpretations of your symptoms. This doesn't have to be labeled with a random disorder. This shows insecurities in both yourself and your relationship. This is something that you should go talk to a therapist about if it is effecting your daily life, which I think it is. Do you have the resources to go talk with a therapist? It seems like it would be best. Remember that therapy is completely normal. Many people go to others to talk to about their issues. I do it all the time, and I consider myself to be, for the most part, a completely stable individual.
Is that an avenue that you can take?
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I don't know, I think I am 70/40 on this issue. I always give it my 110%.