I have a difficult time talking with her. She's nice, but that might be the problem. She almost talks to me like I'm a scared, small child; purposely talking in a soft voice. I've never been to a different counselor, but when I've been at home or whatever and something's been bothering me, my parents or friends would just come out and ask what's wrong. They wouldn't try to figure it out, they'd just ask and be direct. They're strict and to the point when they ask. It's not necessarily a bad thing, they're concerned. It's basically the opposite from my counselor and I'm having a difficult time opening up to that type of counseling.

What advice do you have? I really don't have another reason to not see her other than the fact she's abit too friendly but yet with this way I don't accomplish anything. She makes me feel like I'm back in elementary school by the way she talks to me. I have a difficult enough time talking about my "feelings." When someone talks to me in such a manner it makes me shut them out even more.

Your counsellor is probably perfectly capable of being direct, if she realizes that you would prefer that.

That being said, if you do talk to her, and she doesnt change her methods, its time to search for a new counselor.

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in all honesty, it's what counselors are supposed to do, they're supposed to be nice and understanding because it's a great approach to getting people to talk about themselves and open up to their problems

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True, I get what you're saying. Even though my friends/family, whoever, thought I had a problem and needed to deal with it, it was basically the "you're not leaving this room until you tell me what's going on" deal. Although they're not the ones with a Phd, it worked and went better than seeing the counselor. I don't come from a highly sensitive environment so I'm not use to people talking with me like the counselor does.

i hate when counselors are all condescending