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finally told him
Replies: 11Last Post Sep. 15, 2008 11:24pm by Chiefette
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So i finally told my boyfriend that im pregnant, all the while my heart was racing. i had no idea how he would react. At first he was speachless and had no idea what to say, and then said it will be ok and hugged me. that was about 5 hours ago. he left after that and he didnt tel me where he went. he hasent come home yet and he wont answer a text or a call. what is going on?

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how old are u?

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hmm not a good sign?? lmao

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Mimiko


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Welly ou did just tell him hes gonna be a daddy. Maybe he needs some space..? Or um time to think in other words..

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let um be hes prolly shocked and needs some space and time to think

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DADDYS LITTLE GIRL


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He's just shocked and needs some time to think.

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You just told him some pretty big news. He may have reacted well to your face (and congrats for that!), but that doesn't mean that he may not need some time to get his own thoughts in order.

Sometimes giving someone time to just let the news settle is all they need. This doesn't necessarily mean that he's running away from you, doesn't want to be with you, or doesn't want to help you, it could be as simple as wanting a moment alone to let the news sink in.

Even in the best situations things can go wrong. Sometimes wanting to be with someone and stand by someone's side isn't enough to be able to do so. He has just as much of a life and emotions as you, and it is very possible that he doesn't feel ready or able to handle this with you. That wouldn't even make him a bad person, it can happen to the best of people.

When he is ready and able to talk to you then he will. Until then, if he wishes to be alone there is sadly little that you can do. If this, however, were to continue for an extended period of time (weeks) I would probably consider him out of the picture. But a few hours or even a day or two isn't much in the big scheme of things, even if it is worrying for you. When he gets back in touch with you, perhaps explaining that you are ok with him having his alone time, but you care for him and worry about him, and just knowing that he's ok and safe is really all you need. Explaining that it isn't a matter of knowing where he is every moment, but simply understand that he hasn't left you alone is what's important to you. I have gone through this issue myself. Sometimes when I need some time alone I tend to forget about those that are important, and there were a few times that I left myself MIA to my boyfriend, unknowingly leaving him worried and stressed. A simple conversation was all I really needed to get my mind back on the right track.

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He needs time...nothing wrong with you, just time

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he probley scared just give him time ever thing will be ok

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he just needs time

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swtpie


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He is probably just taking some time to let it sink in. Don't worry. You see, you've already had time to think it over, now he needs his time. If he doesn't want the baby, and you do, you can always talk it out. But don't abort just cause he do.

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Chiefette


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You have just told him some of the biggest news of his life.  I am sure than he needs time to think and to get himself together.  He may not come around right away.  As I have heard many times.  A woman becomes a mother at conception, a man becomes a father when the baby is born.  You have probably had atleast a few days to think about this, and you probably had an idea that it was coming for a little while.  Unless you let him in on this, it probably came to him as a complete suprise, and it is going to take a while for him to accept the fact that he is about to become a father.  
Don't expect the worst, but you also need to prepare for it.  He might not be accepting of the fact right away, but you need to understand that his initial and maybe even secondary reactions aren't necessarily going to be the final ones either.  
When he is ready, he will come to you.  Even if it takes him a few days don't go looking for him, don't bring it up.  Let him come around in his own time.

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