Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic High expectations of yourself Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post duesxmachina Posted at 5:08 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 if i want to get to actually know people guys and girls i have to stop thinking that im the only one that suffers. but even though i've come a long way from the hospitilzation incident(s), i still don't feel good enough. good enough to date, good enough to make new friends, and theres the possibility they would not like me because im a super strange or nervous guy. anyone else get this way? it could start at school, or your body (one common guy thing is "man boobs", believe me i've been there) and well when do you get the perspective i've seen flawed people who date and are happy. it's just...well you know, if it's broken don't fix it? i always find something broken. anyways just wanted some good advice thanks.

Replies dovelove Posted at 6:22 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 I totally know what you mean. Really. Low self-esteem is something that's crap to deal with because it's within your own mind. First of all, you have to deal with yourself before you can even begin to make friends. Yeah people can befriend the "broken" person or whatever, but for people to want to be around you and become friends, you need to show them that you're worth something. Would you want to hang out with someone who was constantly down on themselves? Probably not. It sounds like you need to just put yourself in social situations. If you're still in high school, go to a football game or a pep rally or some kind of school event where there will be a lot of people milling around. You don't even have to talk to anyone; just be there and watch how other people interact with their friends. Maybe pick one specific outgoing person to watch, and take mental notes about their behavior so you can try it out later when you're with a few people. Remember, improving your attitude about yourself isn't going to happen in one day. Plan out certain things you want to work on. For example, if you're not happy with your body, try to lift weights 3 times a week. If you want to work on your personality, do the exercise I outlined above. It's going to be a process, but if you really want to change and you stick with things and really put your mind to it, you can change yourself. fantazia Posted at 5:15 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 Try going to a nightclub and hooking up with insanely hot chics. duesxmachina Posted at 5:13 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 i go to work and sometimes hang with friends. i don't know what else to do. if your never happy with what you have why bother? fantazia Posted at 5:11 pm on Aug. 27, 2008 You just need to get out more, do something you like to do. All 4 previous replies displayed.