Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Should I tell him? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 3:58 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I've been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. And I love him more than anything. The thing is, before he knew me, I used to be a cutter. And well you know how old habits die hard, I've still had compulsions where I wanted to cut. He doesn't know this. He gave me a bracelet for valentines day this year, which I haven't taken off since he put it on. The wrist he put it on was my "cutting wrist" so to say. And this bracelet has kept me from cutting myself. Because every time I want to, I look to where I would cut and see the bracelet. Which just kind of reminds me that I am worth something to someone. It means so much to me, and I hate keeping things from him. But I'm just not sure if I should tell him?

Replies Siress Posted at 5:55 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 4:17 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from mendingheart518 at 7:05 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I'd tell him, Plus sounds like he truely cares about you. Maybe he can even help you with your feelings of wanting too. I used to cut, and i used to drink and pop a lot of pills. Now, i am 100% clean from everything after 4 years and I told my fiance everything. we been together now close to 2 years and have a wonderful baby on the way. He has helped me and stuck by my side through everything. I stopped everything when we got together. I think he would support you and it's good to get it off your chest ya know? Be honest with him :) and good luck with everything and I wish you the best Thanks, that honestly made the most sense out of everything Your mind was made up before you started this thread. Anonymous Posted at 4:17 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from mendingheart518 at 7:05 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I'd tell him, Plus sounds like he truely cares about you. Maybe he can even help you with your feelings of wanting too. I used to cut, and i used to drink and pop a lot of pills. Now, i am 100% clean from everything after 4 years and I told my fiance everything. we been together now close to 2 years and have a wonderful baby on the way. He has helped me and stuck by my side through everything. I stopped everything when we got together. I think he would support you and it's good to get it off your chest ya know? Be honest with him :) and good luck with everything and I wish you the best Thanks, that honestly made the most sense out of everything Audrey Forrest Posted at 4:16 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I told my boyfriend about my history and now whenever I feel like I might relapse, he's always there for me to talk to about it.  I don't have to hide anything and it makes it so much easier for both of us.   freedom Posted at 4:09 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:06 am on Oct. 14, 2008 Quote: from freedom at 7:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 You would just make him paranoid and constantly worrying about you. Is it really worth it? Well considering I have been talking about how I need a psychiatrist, and he knows I had one in the past, I'm not sure how he'd be worrying any more so. But I would see it as attention seeking, bringing up something unnecessary that would just cause other people distress. Maybe you should really think on the reasons you want to tell him. Anonymous Posted at 4:07 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from millyness at 7:00 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I think the truth is better than lying. I mean, even if he doesn't accept this...he kinda doesn't know what he has then , u know? But yeah, go for it, let him know about how u feel bout cutting now that u dont do it. It's not really lying unless he brings it up and I deny it though is it? agerask Posted at 4:06 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from Siress at 4:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Not until it presents an issue or is directly asked. It serves no purpose unless it's becoming an issue. I agree with this. Duke Posted at 4:06 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from KendallMoc at 6:01 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I think you should. It's really sweet.   If you're not comfortable telling him, then don't. He doesn't have to know everything about your life. Anonymous Posted at 4:06 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from freedom at 7:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 You would just make him paranoid and constantly worrying about you. Is it really worth it? Well considering I have been talking about how I need a psychiatrist, and he knows I had one in the past, I'm not sure how he'd be worrying any more so. mendingheart518 Posted at 4:05 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I'd tell him, Plus sounds like he truely cares about you. Maybe he can even help you with your feelings of wanting too. I used to cut, and i used to drink and pop a lot of pills. Now, i am 100% clean from everything after 4 years and I told my fiance everything. we been together now close to 2 years and have a wonderful baby on the way. He has helped me and stuck by my side through everything. I stopped everything when we got together. I think he would support you and it's good to get it off your chest ya know? Be honest with him :) and good luck with everything and I wish you the best BeautifulxLiar Posted at 4:04 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from ralili at 7:00 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I think you should. He would support you and love you. It's best not to keep secrets from those you love. that^ freedom Posted at 4:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 You would just make him paranoid and constantly worrying about you. Is it really worth it? Siress Posted at 4:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Not until it presents an issue or is directly asked. It serves no purpose unless it's becoming an issue. hithere Posted at 4:03 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 tell him if you want, don't tell him if you don't....i don't see how it would make a big difference to him either way... jellybeana4 Posted at 4:01 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 You should. Maybe he can help? bb32135 Posted at 4:01 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 Quote: from ralili at 4:00 pm on Oct. 13, 2008 I think you should. He would support you and love you. It's best not to keep secrets from those you love. I agree Most recent 15 of 20 previous replies displayed.