Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Social Depression??? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 2:36 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 Alright, first off, I'm fairly religious, and I do not want anyone to mention anything ignorant about this fact. If you do, I'm asking any and all mods to report. Please and thank you! Ok... where to start? So lately, I guess I've had sort of a revelation to life. Everything is pointless. Or at least everything is boring and therefore doesn't have a point. I was watching TV the other day and said to myself, "WOW! There is nothing worth while on TV" (except the office). So I stopped watching. The next day I decided to rededicate myself to God and try to live for His glory. I was fine with that and started writing songs and finding SOME joy in things. Now, after I think about it further, nothing is worth the time. I started thinking about the future and thought how boring it was going to be. I've been waiting FOREVER to go to college, but now I'm having doubts about this time that's supposed to be fun and where you're supposed to party the hell out of yourself. What is the point? I've been trying to decide if life is really THAT boring and pointless or if I'm depressed for some reason. I have loads of friends at school and on my club soccer team and back in the city where I moved from. I love them all. However, lately, I've felt sort of anti-social. I'm not sure if that's because I'm extremely tired of school and my extracurricular activities or because I just am anti-social. Nonetheless, I'm beginning to think I need to hang out with my friends more OUTSIDE of school, but it's hard since the closest person lives 20 minutes away. Eventually, though, aren't my thoughts going to change towards this and this too will become boring and useless??? I've also ruled in the possibility that I recently started talking to my friend again after a sort of 'dead period' where we didn't talk for a few months. I liked her the second I met her and I continued liking her for the next 2 years, but keeping my options open. Then, I had to move, but I still had these feelings for her. Which is when the 'dead period' began. So I called her up and told her and she has a boyfriend now. but I asked her some questions and she said that when I first started liking her, she liked me also. I guess I was just too shy to ask her out, I dunno. She ended up giving up on me. I still miss her even though I know things could never work out (long distance relationship, boyfriend, etc.) and I've told her that. Or maybe, going slightly off of that path, is this feeling just stress related? I've had tons of homework lately and have been extremely tired. Any help? Please don't tell me to go to a professional either. I'll decide that for myself. Which I'm actually considering if I still feel this way in the future weeks and months to come. The one I'm thinking the most is worthy of causing this feeling is the friends thing, though. Thanks!

Replies cutie2 Posted at 3:44 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 Hey, I feel for you, I've absolutely been through the 'everything is ultimately pointless' stuff. I still struggle with it a bit but I'm much happier. Read Ecclesiastes and meet a man who found everything to be pointless, yet still left an incredible legacy. I was shocked that such a well-known man of God who had so much wisdom had concluded the same thing as me - and it was oddly comforting. I think God is only too eager to bring you through this despondency. Talk to him. Rainfallen22 Posted at 2:54 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 =[ thats upsetting. My story (in very short) sounds a bit like yours. Except my "dark period" turned into more or less three years on and off. I have trouble talking to even friends... like. I cant even describe, its just hard for me. SO well... it started in 8th grade, and now im in 10th. It has gotten better but not to the point i wish it would have. I also turned to religion though. It helps. While your most likely Christian... i suppose you probably have the same community organizations we do.. Hm. Try being active in a social action-based youth group... or program. The reason i never ended up going through with suicide was because of the great feeling i got helping people. Sometimes... at the end of the day... the best thing you could do is feel appreciated by strangers for helping them and making an impact on someone. I suggest you get involved in that. BUT for this girl... if course your still gunna think about her. But try and move foward... maybe youll find a girl by you. The trick is to make it one day at a time, and keep yourself busy and relaxed. Anonymous Posted at 2:52 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 Thanks! This is actually really helpful. I really do appreciate it. Rose, to your points- I've been texting her the last few days and it's all been good. However, I think she's not looking at it as effort, but rather a hopeless annoyance. Her boyfriend actually saw a message which said I miss you and sent me a message telling me to f*** off as well as told me to stop texting her. We still did the next 3 days and now she's stopped responding. College- I understand what you're saying. I get straight A's and I don't plan on ruining that or partying every day, but the atmosphere gives you sense of freedom... from what I hear and see and is depicted anyway. Social thing- sounds good, I guess. And tell me one thing that isn't pointless. In the end, it all fades to dust. Legacy may last a while on earth, but what happens when the earth is gone? hersheyparker Posted at 2:47 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 I know what you're going through. But its okay! There is light at the end of the tunnel! Stay positive. RoseBeautyMagical416 Posted at 2:46 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 First of all if she is still with this person keep talking to her no matter what. If she sees you are making the effort to keep the frienship it should be fine.  Who knows maybe you guys could get into a long distance relationship. I myself am in one right now and so far it has been going good. I'm not going to lie it has been difficult, but it has helped too. With college... I don't go partying every friggin weekend.  Yes,  I go sometimes, but usually i just hang with friends by going downtown and doing other stuff. Those who usually prty like hell, look like hell after a while, then their grades go to hell, and then go home to their parents, who would be mad as hell.   With the whole antisocial thing... its normal being around a lot of different personalities after a while can be very tiring. and you just want your space and not do anything. If you are feeling depressed and bad about not being around others, do social activities, but limit it so that way you will be hanging with people, but you aren't overdueing it.   Trust me I am going through the same thing myself... it has been very hard.   one more point.. not everything is pointless Anonymous Posted at 2:43 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 I know that. But I can't when the future looks so dull and so pointless. I love God, don't get me wrong. However, I started thinking about heaven and hell. When we do go to either, I'm picturing us as robots. Heaven, everyone's going to be happy. They can't be sad, etc. because it's heaven, God's dwelling place. Hell, on the other hand, is just going to be eternal pain with no happiness. The future just looks so grey. It's as if I'm programmed to do something and follow that pattern EVERY DAY of EVERY WEEK. Just get's old. rozenmaiden101 Posted at 2:40 pm on Nov. 18, 2008 Are you kidding me?! If you just dedicated your life to God, you should be living your life to the fullest and shining for God so the entire world will know how much you love living life with God in your life and making others want to live for God too. All 7 previous replies displayed.