Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I'm having... some trouble. Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post The Sarah Posted at 6:38 pm on April 29, 2008 I'm an introvert; even when I'm not feeling shy/anxious, I am just one of those people who "lives in a rich inner world" and I enjoy solitary activities like painting or writing or whatnot. I don't need to be with people 24/7, I just need to feel cared about. Well, I've made good friends this year, and I'm having trouble feeling like I deserve them. They're extroverts; I can have fun with them one-on-one but when we're all in a group I get embarrassingly withdrawn and quiet. I'm just not a big group conversation person, I guess. I just feel like when they see my shy core, they don't/won't like it, and having this new friends is such an incredible blessing but it is also making me feel pressured, like I have to get myself to be less introverted to be better friends to them. It's not them that give me this pressure, it's myself; I just feel confused about why they want to hang around with me. I can get in pretty awful moods and have some emotional problems that I've even seen psychologists for, and I'm not comfortable showing that because I feel like at the core, they are not the same that I am in that respect. We are fundamentally different. I just really respect them as individuals and wish I could feel like I'm in their league. They treat me great, don't get me wrong, I just feel intimidated by some of them secretly, even if I've become really close with them and have already talked to them about what I am basically saying in this topic. Like... I guess I just feel like I'm holding them back or something by being introverted. Help? Any insights?

Replies The Sarah Posted at 6:38 pm on April 29, 2008 I'm an introvert; even when I'm not feeling shy/anxious, I am just one of those people who "lives in a rich inner world" and I enjoy solitary activities like painting or writing or whatnot. I don't need to be with people 24/7, I just need to feel cared about. Well, I've made good friends this year, and I'm having trouble feeling like I deserve them. They're extroverts; I can have fun with them one-on-one but when we're all in a group I get embarrassingly withdrawn and quiet. I'm just not a big group conversation person, I guess. I just feel like when they see my shy core, they don't/won't like it, and having this new friends is such an incredible blessing but it is also making me feel pressured, like I have to get myself to be less introverted to be better friends to them. It's not them that give me this pressure, it's myself; I just feel confused about why they want to hang around with me. I can get in pretty awful moods and have some emotional problems that I've even seen psychologists for, and I'm not comfortable showing that because I feel like at the core, they are not the same that I am in that respect. We are fundamentally different. I just really respect them as individuals and wish I could feel like I'm in their league. They treat me great, don't get me wrong, I just feel intimidated by some of them secretly, even if I've become really close with them and have already talked to them about what I am basically saying in this topic. Like... I guess I just feel like I'm holding them back or something by being introverted. Help? Any insights? All 2 previous replies displayed.