Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic depression Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post mandii Posted at 1:05 pm on June 17, 2008 my brother hes older, 21 to be exact, well he always bottled everything up, and now hes letting it outt.. ive put soo much stress on his shoulders... and hes my bestfriend, we used 2 be so close.. and now im cutting again, idk watt to dooo....

Replies marshmellowman Posted at 3:38 pm on June 17, 2008 You have no reason to cut, and I hope that you can find it in you to stop. It's not the way to deal with things. I know from personal experience that bottling up things is the worst thing to do, and letting it out (slowly) is extremely helpful. Directing it towards any person is not a good idea, but often than not it is incidental and not by any means on purpose. I think you have to try and be empathetic towards your brother. Clearly he's had lots of thoughts tightly wound up in his head which puts a great deal of stress and anxiety on a person. You have to understand that it's not your fault. You didn't all or any of his problems. It's long past that stage now, you should be there and help him, not get caught up with what happened in the past. You also have to know that letting it all out is his method of coping with it, so if he gets annoyed or angry with you then don't read into it. He's just letting it loose and sad as it is, you're just there to assist in that. So think of it as you helping him cope if he lets it out at you. You are his brother so you should support him all you can. Make sure he's okay, if you see that he's looking sad or down talk to him. Ask him what's up and try to make him happier. Go watch a movie together or make jokes to raise his self-esteem and his mood. If he finds out that you're cutting he's only going to think that he's responsible for it, and that will only make him feel even worse. You obviously don't want that, so trying to stop cutting altogether is a great idea. It's definitely not easy but it will make you feel better and will prevent anything like this from happening. As another member suggested, you might want to look at going to a counselor. Either you and your brother separately, or together. I think being together is perhaps the best option because you can give feedback to each other and let out all your feelings. Seeing you two respond to each other is beneficial to you two as well as the counselor. They will be able to assist with coping with this and suggest methods to help resolve the problem. There is only so much either of you can do alone, having a 3rd party there independent to the situation provides a fresh look on the situation and they can often pose ideas or thoughts that you wouldn't normally think about. Just look out for your brother. Talk to him, but don't approach him all the time because he might get the feeling that you're nagging him or making him feel like a baby. Remember, the future is bright, he's over the worst part now, so be there and support him. But equally make sure that you are alright yourself. Don't blame yourself for this, and don't overlook it. Go have fun with your friends as well, make sure that both of you are happy and enjoy your lives. Doing fun things helps to relax you and take your mind off of everything else. I wish you the best of luck, and if you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me. brunettechic Posted at 1:26 pm on June 17, 2008 Going to a family counseling session can really help you both. If you go into together and then individually, you can solve a lot of problems. As for cutting, that's one thing you can talk about. XxAnNeXx237 Posted at 1:17 pm on June 17, 2008 your gonna get addicted.. Its impossible to stop.. You should talk to him about it.. HelHound Posted at 1:13 pm on June 17, 2008 Cutting isn't the answer. Try talking to him. coloring the void Posted at 1:07 pm on June 17, 2008 Don't cut. All 5 previous replies displayed.