Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Losing A Father Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post MsCaesi Posted at 9:26 am on Sep. 3, 2008 When I was 6 I found my father seizing in the bathroom of our home. I called 911 and when the paramedics arrived he was rushed to the hospital and diagnosed with a brain tumor. He went through surgery and chemotherapy and the tumor was gone but he would never be the same father I once knew. Over the past few years his health has deteriorated. He has had several strokes and seizures even though the tumor has been gone for over 15 years. It is extremely difficult for him to communicate and he is unable to accomplish simple tasks. He repeats himself all of the time and gets confused often. Last month, my step-mom put him in an assisted living home with a lot of older people. He is only 42! It is really scaring me. They live in another state, about 18 hours away, and I'm afraid that he may not have as much time left as I had hoped. I plan to travel north as soon as I can. I just needed to get my worries off of my chest and maybe some encouragement. Has anyone else gone through a similar situation?

Replies Faded Beauty Queen Posted at 9:40 am on Sep. 3, 2008 I have never lost a parent, but my aunt and uncle suffered from a hereditary disease that rendered them vegetative towards the end. They both went into care homes, and I can totally relate to how scary that can be. It sounds so difficult, I know, and a little harsh, but you really have to learn to accept the situation, because it's not going to change. All you can really do is show your dad how much you love and care for him, and try not to be too scared of what may or may not happen. It's such a cliche but you really need to be strong for him. LadyAlice18 Posted at 9:34 am on Sep. 3, 2008 I wouldn't be able to understand how you completely feel as I have never been in a serious situation such as this. I have however lost a grandparent to cancer - which was a frightening experience because she went so quickly I understand how hard this must be for you, but just remember, he is in the best of hands available - all he needs you to do is be strong for him...dont let your worries overwhelm you - this will only make it worse. All 2 previous replies displayed.