Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Am I the only one? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post seg Posted at 9:43 pm on Feb. 16, 2007 Does anybody else feel awful after giving in to sex with some strager guy who pushed me into it?  I feel like a failure.  How do I get out of my lowness?

Replies bride2B Posted at 9:44 am on Sep. 24, 2008 I had been telling my boyfriend no for almost two years, and it just got more painful every time. I remember a time when I would not let him touch me sexually at all, but the pain in my heart burned from telling him no. So I gave in. We have been engaged for over a year now, and he has been trying to have me fully for some time, but I would not let him. I told him I wanted to be a virgin on our wedding day. He agreed every time I said no, but he never quit asking. <br>  Oh God if I didn't give in to him not 2 days ago. In less than 2 minutes he had finished. I felt no pleasure or happiness from it, and he the love of my life. I know we are getting married any way, but I felt like trash, full of guilt and remorse. We talked last night about it and both wept and wept. I made him promise me it would not happen again. Then I made him promise me that night never happened in the first place. I have put my foot down to boldly conquer my anxiety and reclaim purity for myself. <br> Even if you have had sex 100 times, you can claim a spiritual virginity for yourself, it is never too late. You must simply say to yourself "I am in control of my own body. I am a strong young woman. No man will ever again make me feel inferior. No man will ever again cause me to lose control of my own body. And from this point forward, I claim the victory and purity that should rightfully belong to me. From this point forward, I am within myself a true virgin." <br>  You may use this if you have been raped, but in my own opinion if you were truly raped, then no responsibility lies on your shoulders. As far as I am concerned, virgins who are raped are still virgins because they themselves did not choose to give that gift away. <br> For those of you who are Christians, confess your troubles before God and ask him to make your pure once again, "white as snow". God forgives all sins. He has forgiven me and my fiance and given us a second chance. He will forgive you too.  <p> I hope this will serve as an encouragement to empower any young woman who feels pressured into doing what they do not want to do. Be strong, a warrior-ess of your own body and self. Mambo di Bango Posted at 3:57 pm on Mar. 2, 2007 If it was against your will, it is rape, especially if it made you feel down about it afterwards, its clearly not something you enjoyed, he was taking advantage of your reluctance to stop it.  It'd be pretty hard proving it was rape though because he'll just say you didnt try to stop him.  Honey, I'm sorry it happened to you, I hope you're feeling ok nowadays? seg Posted at 5:09 pm on Mar. 1, 2007 I'm not sure how people define rape anymore these days.  I was pressured into sex, but not physically forced into it.  It was sort of the snowball effect where he was making moves on me real fast and in my head I was thinking, "I don't want this"... and then I couldn't pull away.  So I guess that's not rape.  But I didn't like it and was too afraid to stop him because of what he'll say to me next or something. cha chi Posted at 9:05 pm on Feb. 27, 2007 Quote: from seg at 9:43 pm on Feb. 16, 2007 Does anybody else feel awful after giving in to sex with some strager guy who pushed me into it?  I feel like a failure.  How do I get out of my lowness? I feel like  gave into my boyfriend the first time I had sex. But i was prepaired to do it as he was living in a different city across the country and I went to go visit him. Do you give into random strangers all the time? Cause then that I would see a little bit of a problem. But if this was random and you didnt expect it and you didnt really want it and you gave in because you didnt want him to hurt you if you said no, then your not alone. That happens alot. I think you need to be careful who you meet and who you start fooling around with to lead to sex. Be a little more smarter in your choices and stuff like that might not happen. divineassault Posted at 11:40 am on Feb. 27, 2007 The greatest trick the devil ever pulled was convincing the world he didn't exist.  The point I'm making is that you, being a human being with a sex drive, will probably mess up or find yourself in the situation to mess up again.  Its all good, and feeling bad is natural, but the first step to dealing with it is to admit that part of you wanted it.  not being in touch with that part of you is like emotional suicide when it comes to sex in the moment because its like newtons law or some shit...every action has an equal and opposite one.  for every bit you convince yourself that you did not want it and you shouldn't have done it because of your conditioning (biological and social), a part of you will be reminding you that you did (biological and social).  where they meet is that feeling of guilt and shame.  I'm not saying you should or should not do it...just try to get in touch more with your feelings and the problem should fix itself in the most appropiate way defiled lotus Posted at 11:35 pm on Feb. 20, 2007 I do the same thing. You let someone talk you into it mostly because they are interested and it's not like you want to have sex with them they just keep pushing it. And eventually they hit that point, that nerve, where you just stop saying no. Here's what to do: Just keep saying no. Even when they hit that nerve. Don't let people take advantage of you, no matter what. I know it's hard, but seriously. Right now, you have to stop regretting it and just focus on not letting it happen again. winter rose Posted at 5:20 am on Feb. 20, 2007 Honey we all make mistakes! If he raped you then, i can understand you would feel upset.  Even if he did you are still a good and worthy person. PromiseMe Posted at 5:15 am on Feb. 20, 2007 Quote: from Mambo di Bango at 6:47 pm on Feb. 18, 2007 Did he rape you or are you just denying your part in it by saying he pushed you into it? I second that question... and no, you are not the only one. Mambo di Bango Posted at 6:47 pm on Feb. 18, 2007 Did he rape you or are you just denying your part in it by saying he pushed you into it. yoko Posted at 5:25 am on Feb. 17, 2007 i agree keep your legs closed.  only way to avoid it. seg Posted at 9:50 pm on Feb. 16, 2007 Yeah, I know you're all right.  I'm not a whore... but I do have regrets in the past that are eating me up.  My legs are closed : ) Cunning Stunt Posted at 9:46 pm on Feb. 16, 2007 Quote: from TheUnrealSlimShady at 12:44 am on Feb. 17, 2007 Keep your legs closed? That sounds like some quality advice right there. Mmhmm. swedegrrl2009 Posted at 9:45 pm on Feb. 16, 2007 Tell yourself it was a mistake and move on. I did it once too. Don't feel bad, you got caught up in the moment, it happens. OverTheAir Posted at 9:45 pm on Feb. 16, 2007 Stop having sex with strangers perhaps? TheUnrealSlimShady Posted at 9:44 pm on Feb. 16, 2007 Keep your legs closed? Most recent 15 of 16 previous replies displayed.