Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Am I just a bad party conversationalist? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 10:04 pm on Nov. 22, 2008 I consider myself an introverted person. Actually, I consider myself a natural introvert who occasionally puts in some decent effort to be extroverted, because I do enjoy social situations and having friends. For example, last weekend, I told this female friend of mine to bring some of her friends and I'd bring my friends so we could have a nice little dinner mixer. I had to put in a lot of effort, but for those two hours, I was able to be very outgoing and extroverted. Anyway, I just came back from a party, and I can't help but feel that I'm not good at party conversations. It was a dorm party, and the music was loud and we had to shout to talk. I saw friends and acquaintances and we talked, but then about 3 minutes later we eventually ran out of things to say and they'd excuse themselves to go elsewhere. Meanwhile, there are some guys who are like the life of the party and can carry conversations for half an hour, just improvising as they go along. Am I just boring? I couldn't help but feel like people were trying to get away from me. I introduced myself to a couple of new people, but they didn't seem interested in getting to know me. I feel like I'm an excellent conversationalist. I have a diverse array of interests. I have many talents, from music to drawing to trivia knowledge. I'd even say that I'm a pretty cute guy. So why do I feel like very few people want to talk to me at parties?

Replies rockerprincess Posted at 10:13 pm on Nov. 22, 2008 Theres a reason for that. I may not everything about party conversations but I feel some people probably feel intimidated by your vocabulary or in simple words your "intelligence".   Judging from what you have written you seem to be a very smart individual who is a complex yet shy in person. I think that when you go for a party you have one goal in mind- the fact that you have to impress people out there.  I'll say dont try that hard. Just be yourself and have fun. If your gonna be worried about what to talk about and how someone is going to percieve it then all you'll end up doing is getting nervous and then running out of things to say.  So dont be afraid to say what you want at a party...because believe me the worst kind of conversation at a party is "pre-planned conversation" and it never seems to work. Just let the conversation flow naturally.  Another reason why you might have had a weird experience maybe because these people are just different from you. Maybe this party did not include people you regularly hang out with, so you might have felt out of place and tried to fit in.  Well whts gone has been done..concentrate on the next party and keep to your comfort zone. Theres nothing wrong in being a little shy. Best of luck with it. :D