Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic A survey about friends after high school. Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post AdviceGuy158 Posted at 7:17 pm on June 16, 2005 I'm not excatly sure of where to post this, but this kinda stuff is for people who have graduated from high school.  Do any of you out there still have the same friends you went to high school with?  The reason why I am asking is that I was told once you leave high school.  Things change.  One of those changes is that most of your friends usually go in a different direction and your no longer friends with them.  Do you think this sounds true to you?  Why or why not?

Replies stene Posted at 9:44 pm on Feb. 28, 2006 We talk on facebook but that's about it. Every once in a while they'll drive the twenty minutes and come to the bars with me (campustown requires you to only be 19) but other than that I don't ever see them.  And we're all cool with that. I'm completely different than I was in highschool.  My old friends don't like that I party a lot, and I don't like sitting at home on a Friday night. ehh- people change. Angel Reversed Posted at 2:03 pm on Feb. 28, 2006 I graduated in 2003 with the younger grade of the double cohort in Ontario. I'm now in university in BC. I haven't seen or heard from most of my classmates from high school since prom, though I have kept in touch with my closest friends. There are five of them. And through them I've heard about how a few of my old classmates are doing, or I've seen some of them. But things are different now. I have had different social groups every year so far here. But I've made some new close friends. As for my five friends back home, one of them has finished her degree and is working at a radio station in a small town near Toronto, I saw her last Christmas, and at 2004-5 New Year's, and in the summer of 2004 since leaving. One of my friends will be finishing her degree this year and I think she plans on doing a year of Bible college next year. She doesn't communicate much with the other 4, but she does communicate with two or three other people who I knew. I've seen her last summer, and the summer before since leaving. One of my friends is at a university in my hometown doing a similar degree to what I'm doing. I think she'll be done next year (I'm going to take another two years because I'm also an athlete). I've seen her last Christmas, last summer, 2004-5 New Year's, and summer 2004 since leaving. Two of my friends go to the same university and are in the same program, but not the same classes. They've been meeting each other once a week for lunch. I've seen one of them last Christmas, last summer, 2004-5 New Year's and summer 2004, and the other one at the same times plus once in March of 2004. So, ya, I don't see them much, and our infrequent emails that used to be about 3 months apart have grown to be about every time I come home (Christmas and summer). We're not as close as we used to be, but it is a lot of fun to catch up and to see each other when we are in the same city at the same time. My sister, who graduated last year, is still in contact with her best friend. Her best friend went to the same elementary school as she did, but they went to different high schools. If my sister had decided to stay home for university, they'd be in the same program together and probably the same classes (since it is a small program). But she decided to go somewhere else for various reasons. Her best friend and her will probably remain best friends for a long time, despite their distance, because they've already had 4 years apart. xokaty23madreexo Posted at 7:10 pm on Feb. 13, 2006 You def. lose friends whenever you leave school, it is never the same. I tried the "living with a close friend," which truely does not workout. Whenever you leave the standard that you are used to like high school things end up changing because you are in a different environment and making new friends. Me and my first roommate who I graduated with are no longer friends at all. We experienced the new beginings together and it ended really bad. You change from who you were then into a different person. Some of the most determined people that I have ever met ended up becoming partiers and doign nothing but drinking and sleeping. It is normal and of course does happen, so don't worry and just remmeber that even if the friends that you have in high school are supposed to "last forever" you end up making friends who you live with that you will stay in contact with, truely forever!   itsluvthatimsendin2u Posted at 10:14 am on Jan. 29, 2006 Well I'm in my first yr at uni, I also had 2 years of sixthform college between school and uni, and I still talk to alot of my friends from school several times a week. Some people I don't hear from much anymore, but I find if you make the effort to send the odd postcard etc, you can stay close to people. And IM and email help lots too! taurus bebe Posted at 5:17 pm on Jan. 27, 2006 I graduated from high school and am going to college now. I'm still friends with my high school "friends," even though we weren't really close, and I was happy to start over again in college, with new friends and new people... But yeah, if you're close enough with a person, you're gonna stay friends with them. The key is to keep in touch through AIM or Facebook or phone or something...and really it's not hard to keep in touch. When you guys get home for break, hang out! It's pretty easy. sile Posted at 5:02 pm on Jan. 27, 2006 Im not still friends with everyone i was friends with in high school but im still just as close to the ones who were important to me and i got on really well with. challgeek252 Posted at 6:33 am on Jan. 26, 2006 I have been out of high school for three years now and well my old high school gang I used to hang out a lot, but after one killer acedemic semester I stopped hanging out with them and I went throu some major changes so we rarely hang out anymore.   Actually my best friend I met right after high school and we have grown through college. People change and if you lose touch of the high school group don't sweat it... people who live in high school tend to be losers (no offense to the losers out there). BeauBlondie17 Posted at 2:39 pm on Sep. 13, 2005 I have very few people that I talk to from high school.  I still keep in touch with a lot of them but I have made a lot of new friends from college and the summer that I hang out with now.  After high school, everyone went their separate ways, and there is no better time to go on and do your own thing than after finishing high school.  The world just opens up and you realize that there is a life outside of the high school and people  that you were stuck in and with for 4 years.   Tenchi Posted at 12:24 am on July 28, 2005 I'm friends with everyone in my graduating class.  they may not feel the same about me though.  I just try my best to love everyone. Brooke01 Posted at 10:20 pm on July 24, 2005 I still hang out with most of my friends from high school. Some have changed but most of them have stayed the same. Since I'm home on summer break now we party about every night. I went to a really small school so everybody in my grade is really close and have known each other our whole lives. It's fun to hear each other's college experiences from the past year and meet their friends they have over, too. crazychris Posted at 11:59 pm on June 30, 2005 I graduated in 2003 and moved around and stuff afterwards.  Now I live about four hours away and I'm still friends with a few people from back home.  Some of them I just talk to when I visit which is rare, but others I talk to on the phone.  Not everyday, but quite often.  I would say I am still friends with like five people, but two of them are kind of slipping away.  I went on a cruise with three other friends (out of the five) and two of them I went with are just sooooo annoying to me now.  They act like complete dorks and I can't see how we were ever friends.  The other friend of mine that went agreed with me on that but we still talk to them just because of old times I guess.  I don't know how much longer I will be friends with all of them, but I would think some of them may be friends forever.  Also, I did call them a lot which is probably why we are still friends.  I think it just takes communication in situations like that. AMC13579 Posted at 12:59 pm on June 29, 2005 Quote: from Broken Dreamer at 10:04 pm on June 28, 2005 I found that most of the relationships I had with people then were very shallow and fake, it gets better in college. I would agree for some friendships but like i said before I have some really, incredibly good friends that I am still in daily contact with in spite of being gone for over two years and having a 2,000 mile distance between us. I haven't made nearly as good of friends since I have been away but then again, my friendships I held onto from high school were people I had been friends with for anywhere from 4 to 14 years before I left home. It really depends on you you are friends with and how much they mean to you whether or not they will last. You definately can make lasting, quality friendships before college though. NYGirl1113 Posted at 1:58 am on June 29, 2005 Quote: from Broken Dreamer at 9:04 pm on June 28, 2005 I found that most of the relationships I had with people then were very shallow and fake, it gets better in college. I couldn't agree more. Broken Dreamer Posted at 9:04 pm on June 28, 2005 I will be graduating in may 2006 from college and I dont really speak to many people that I went to high school with.  I think out of all my friends in high school I only talk to like 2 of them.  I found that most of the relationships I had with people then were very shallow and fake, it gets better in college. kait85 Posted at 5:15 pm on June 28, 2005 i think after high school people change. When i graduated i  never saw my friends again we don't keep in contact nemore Most recent 15 of 23 previous replies displayed.