Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Social appeal Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post rock85cool Posted at 8:04 am on April 23, 2006 I really bang my head with this one. Sometimes I have a super high social flare and other times I can't talk my way out of a wet paper bag. What makes people want to listen to what you have to say or want to be associated with me? Lately, I've been denying my abilities to draw and keep crowds and it worries me. I feel like I'm living in a shell and need to break out. So tell me what attracts you to a person socially. They listen, Confindence, have a hint of sophistication or wisdom to there voice. What is it?

Replies crazychris Posted at 4:19 am on July 2, 2006 I like people who appear trustworthy.  They shouldn't think they're all that and I can't stand people who make fun of others or are mean individuals.  I am attracted, socially, toward those who seem to be enjoying life and having a good time.  They are probably the people you would see laughing or joking around, but not doing it too much.  They have to have a serious side as well.  I like most people in general, but then again, I dislike a lot of people as well.  I'm a weird one. Amalthia07 Posted at 7:23 pm on May 28, 2006 on a superficial level: i like friends who drive. they don't have to have their own car, but it's just irritating when i have my own and they always want rides. or, if they aren't cheap to help with gas...that stuff's pricy! i also like girls who take good care of their physical appearance. i love makeup and hair and fashion, so i need a girl who likes to talk about what we are gonna wear to the club lol. Flow Morphia Slow Posted at 8:47 am on May 8, 2006 i am drawn to people who: show an interest in me, that means listening to what i say and responding back in the relevant way... humorous, sarcastic, serious etc etc I also like it when people tease me, but not to the extent that they humiliate me. people who see things in me that i can't see... good things mind you. crystalclear Posted at 4:10 pm on April 25, 2006 i cant enjoy people who arent being honest with me, liars are my biggest pet peve freakaleek Posted at 7:53 am on April 25, 2006 it varies. maybe its their humor i dunno donmayor Posted at 12:36 pm on April 23, 2006 not everyone is funny...i try to hang out wit honest ppl hollisterislove Posted at 8:23 am on April 23, 2006 The first thing I notice about a person is how friendly they seem. I'm usually more inclined to hang around people who are funny, and have similar interests as me. Confidence is excellent, too. gossamerlt Posted at 8:20 am on April 23, 2006 it changes form person to person! LinZ Posted at 8:18 am on April 23, 2006 The only way I am attracted to people socially is if they show any interest in me at all. They start talking to me, then that's lovely. I have some social anxiety issues and I never really speak to anyone that I don't know, so I am usually thrilled when someone new starts talking to me despite my quiet personality. pmoaeyta Posted at 8:12 am on April 23, 2006 it sounds like you are simply changing. maybe you are growing just a little differently than the crowds you usually target. you just need to find your group and your topic. Spirit Posted at 8:12 am on April 23, 2006 Warmness, give the impression that you aren't going to make fun of someone for something they say and confidence is always good. rock85cool Posted at 8:12 am on April 23, 2006 Quote: from The Floyd at 10:07 am on April 23, 2006 it varies   for some people they like louder more confident people   others liek quiet more sensitive people Sensativity used to be a very good trait of mine. Over the years I've found that lending the sympathetic ear for too long allows for people to take advantage of your generous nature. (Edited by rock85cool at 10:16 am on April 23, 2006) knicole Posted at 8:12 am on April 23, 2006 Their sense of humor. I know if I see someone making people laugh, or laughing them self, I'll want to be around them, and get in on these giggles. But on the other hand, if people are having a nice conversation and someone wants attention and decide to be 'random' and says something, that would be funny at the right moment, but not when they're talking about something else.. I guess it just comes down to knowing where to draw the line.. SHARKBOY Posted at 8:08 am on April 23, 2006 their sense of humor i guess wednesdays violet Posted at 8:07 am on April 23, 2006 how in depth some ppl can be?! sounds chessy right? Most recent 15 of 16 previous replies displayed.