Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic So this is fun. Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post kennedy Posted at 8:15 pm on Mar. 9, 2008 I'm currently hiding out in the library just to avoid my roommate. First semester we were like best friends, and I couldn't love her more. But this semester she is a completely different person. She has this dick boyfriend who she spends ALL her time with. She never sleeps at the dorm anymore, and she's rarely there during the day at all. I don't mind this too much, it's almost like I have a single. But the problem is that she spends so much time getting drunk and having sex with this guy that her grades are slipping, big time. And because we got along so well last semester we scheduled most of our classes together, and she expects me to pick up the slack for her. She's just so freaking selfish and it's driving me crazy. We have an online assignment due before midnight tonight and she just texted me asking if I'd done it and if she could get the answers from me when she gets back tonight. I'm pissed because it's a freaking long assignment and took me two hours to finish. And I'm supposed to just give the answers to her? She also wants me to go with her to park her car on west campus. We're allowed to park our cars wherever we want over the weekend, but once the week starts again they have to go back to west campus, which is a freezing fifteen minute walk away from main campus, where we live. She expects me to go with her, yet every time I've had to take my car over there she's too busy to go with me. So instead of being the good roommate as I've always been and give her the answers and make that freezing walk with her, I texted her back and told her I had mandatory library hours for one of my classes. So now I'm hiding out here and getting my own stuff done instead of putting myself out for her. I feel kind of guilty because I've always been a good roommate, but it's gotten to the point where she's just using me and she's never done shit for me. Am I a bad person for avoiding her?

Replies PrincessLillaMarie Posted at 5:26 am on Mar. 20, 2008 Coming from a person who actually moved in to an apartment with her 'best friend', you've made the right decision.  Friendship is a give and take thing. It needs to be equal or if one person is giving too much, and all the other person does is take, its going to put a bit of a strain on things.  The fact that you realized this and have now decided that you wouldn't be a door mat to her anymore is good and I commend you. Some people don't realize until it's really late in. I think you should probably talk to her and see why she thinks that she has to treat you this way.  Tell her that she always expects you to do things for her, when she never does anything for you.  Now this may make things hostel between the both of you, as I know many girls don't like when people tell them the truth about themselves, but you need to get it out before what she is doing affects your school work. Believe it or not, friendship stress can cause you to slack on your work, especially in the case where she isn't doing anything and just wants you to do her work for her. So just try and have a civil conversation. Try not to get riled up, because if you both start getting angry and yelling you aren't going to get anywhere. tutu2u17 Posted at 6:39 pm on Mar. 18, 2008 No you are not a bad person at all!  Don't let her take advantage of you!  Stand up for yourself! nik1 Posted at 1:55 pm on Mar. 11, 2008 Sounds like you know what is right but don't have the guts to do it.   You are being used and unless you want it to stop you need to have a really heart to heart conversation with her.  I would suggest that you start off telling her how important she has been but things have changed and you don't feel like the feeling is mutual anymore.  State what is acceptable to you and what is not.   Strutter Posted at 8:42 pm on Mar. 9, 2008 NO! You've done enough for her as it is! SHE'S the one paying for her classes, so they'll always be her responsibility. You have your own. I'm thinking that making her take responsibility over her assignment tonight is the best thing you can do. If there's going to be any conflict over this, it should be between her decisions, not between you two. So just stay at the library until she figures out what it took to do the assignment on her own. She won't have anyone to blame but herself. supergirl8034 Posted at 8:19 pm on Mar. 9, 2008 no she's being selfish and rude to you, you shouldn't do things for her while shes out with her boyfriend, let her choose to fail/pass, its not your responsibility to keep her grades up All 5 previous replies displayed.