Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Feeling a bit down Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post A6stringpoet Posted at 7:00 pm on July 20, 2008 I've been dating this girl for about a year and a half, we aren't boyfriend and girlfriend, and mainly that is because I told her I'm just not ready to be tied down. At least, not in that sense. =D We've been through a lot together, as much as a year + can throw at any two people. I had been contemplating asking her if she wanted to be exclusive. But I just hit a major road block. She just had the worst week of her life. On sunday her grandfather died. On monday her cat of 12 years died. and on tuesday her mother was diagnosed with cancer. Needless to say shes an emotional wreck right now. So I've decided to put the question off until she's feeling more stable. I just don't know, it is really difficult to see her go through this. I just don't want her to take my advance as a form of sympathy. ...Any thoughts?

Replies DADDYS LITTLE GIRL Posted at 7:07 pm on July 20, 2008 I think it is definitly a good idea to wait until things lighten up before asking her. For now just be there for her, let her know how much you care. If she wants to talk then be there to listen, guve her a shoulder to cry on she just needs to know your there for support. cadetjones2011 Posted at 7:07 pm on July 20, 2008 Quote: from morrisonsMYmuse at 7:05 pm on July 20, 2008 yeah. just be there for her.   let her lean on you... and wait to ask her about being exclusive until her life has calmed down. everything's really up in the air right now.   just let her know that you're there for her if she needs you...   she'll be really appreciative... and when things calm down, and you get around to asking her, she'll be more inclined to say yes because she'll know how much you really do care about her... agreed Desertborn Posted at 7:05 pm on July 20, 2008 Be by her side. That'll show you're for real katzkitten Posted at 7:05 pm on July 20, 2008 wow bad timing, hope shes ok. Be a friend for now thats what she'll need more than anything.x morrisonsMYmuse Posted at 7:05 pm on July 20, 2008 yeah. just be there for her. let her lean on you... and wait to ask her about being exclusive until her life has calmed down. everything's really up in the air right now. just let her know that you're there for her if she needs you... she'll be really appreciative... and when things calm down, and you get around to asking her, she'll be more inclined to say yes because she'll know how much you really do care about her... panicxparadox Posted at 7:04 pm on July 20, 2008 Wait it out, but be there for her. If she needs someone to talk to, let her talk. If she needs a shoulder to cry on, be that shoulder. Not only does that show that you are a nice guy, but that shows that you care about her a lot to be there. Assure her that everything is going to be okay and maybe take her out to do something to get her mind off of things for a little while. Good luck. Disposition Posted at 7:03 pm on July 20, 2008 I think that was a good idea for you to wait to ask. Just be there for her, and let her know that you're willing to listen if she wants to talk about it. brp002 Posted at 7:02 pm on July 20, 2008 Just wait it out as she is totally emotional here. Snowball Posted at 7:02 pm on July 20, 2008 Just hold her hand for now! She will appreciate that!   All 9 previous replies displayed.