Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I'm going away to college and trying to stay with my bf Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post crzymestchik Posted at 7:27 pm on July 30, 2008 Has anyone stayed with their boyfriend or girlfriend when they went away to college? I'll be leaving for 6 years. I'll be home pretty often like maybe once a month. I just dont know how i'm going to deal with not seeing my bf everyday. Any suggestions?

Replies nik1 Posted at 11:05 am on Aug. 12, 2008 Just make sure he doesn't stay stagnant while you are gone.  Make sure he understands that what you are doing is for you and he should be both happy and encouraging.  However if he doesn't grow as a human while you are away from him you won't stay with him when you are together. When I left for college I was in a relationship.  A good one but in retrospect not a great one.  On the first class on the first day of my second year my world changed when a new girl walked into class.  It wasn't a small attraction...it was huge.  That was three years ago and we are still together.  There is no doubt in my mind that we will be together forever. Couples become comfortable with each other and often change the things that brought them together.  This makes for a situation for change that you cannot turn your head to.  You have to deal with relationships honestly. crzymestchik Posted at 11:41 pm on Aug. 11, 2008 Quote: from 2kewl4u2know at 11:02 pm on Aug. 10, 2008 I'm headed into the same boat. It scares the shit out of me, to be honest. He only lives about 10 minutes away now, and we see each other almost every day, and the days we aren't together feels like forever. We're a year into the relationship and he has a lot of trust issues from previous relationships. Us living an hour apart at the beginning I think is going to put a lot of strain on us, but I'm hoping we'll pull through it. Both of us are scared to death that something might happen, and for the past couple weeks we'll constantly say to each other "Please, don't cheat on me." I'm hoping that once we get settle into the college life, then things will be easier and maybe fit into a groove that will suit us both. What I was told is the best thing to do is continuous communication. Write letters, talk on the phone, visit on breaks..that sort of thing. But at the same time, don't forget to get involved at your school. Gah, I leave in a week and a half and I have no clue what is going to happen. The most I can do now is reassure him everytime that everything will be okay between us. finally someone who actually understands and is in the same situation as me. i leave in a week and im so scared! i dont know what to do. both my bf and my laptops have bulit in webcams so we will be able to talk through that whenever we can. and im probably going to call him everyday for a while. i would suggest getting webcams because its helped us get through vacations away from each other, so hopefully it will help us get through college. 2kewl4u2know Posted at 11:02 pm on Aug. 10, 2008 I'm headed into the same boat.  It scares the shit out of me, to be honest.  He only lives about 10 minutes away now, and we see each other almost every day, and the days we aren't together feels like forever.  We're a year into the relationship and he has a lot of trust issues from previous relationships.  Us living an hour apart at the beginning I think is going to put a lot of strain on us, but I'm hoping we'll pull through it. Both of us are scared to death that something might happen, and for the past couple weeks we'll constantly say to each other "Please, don't cheat on me." I'm hoping that once we get settle into the college life, then things will be easier and maybe fit into a groove that will suit us both.  What I was told is the best thing to do is continuous communication.  Write letters, talk on the phone, visit on breaks..that sort of thing.  But at the same time, don't forget to get involved at your school. Gah, I leave in a week and a half and I have no clue what is going to happen.  The most I can do now is reassure him everytime that everything will be okay between us. Raiku Posted at 9:03 pm on Aug. 10, 2008 Quote: from TigressaLynnMae at 4:52 pm on Aug. 10, 2008 think i give a shit? dont like the heat, stay out of the oven You obviously give some sort of shit, or you wouldn't pretend that you know what you're talking about. You're generalizing, honey. Not all men are promiscuous pigs, and not all women are cheating whores. Believe it or not, there are quite a few men and women who are quite pleasant and pleasurable to be with. It is you, my darling, who should 'stay out of the oven'. You don't like the fact that someone could last in a relationship? Okay. You've had some bad luck, assumingly. Don't take it out on us. You don't know the outcome of the OP's relationship. The only person the OP can answer to, and listen to, is herself, and her boyfriend. Only they can determine the outcome of this. Not you. Not I. And not my cat. Stop giving advice on something you know nothing about. i know a lot about relationships from mine, all of them ended with me being cheated on whats not to stop the OP from doing it as well TigressaLynnMae Posted at 1:52 pm on Aug. 10, 2008 think i give a shit? dont like the heat, stay out of the oven You obviously give some sort of shit, or you wouldn't pretend that you know what you're talking about. You're generalizing, honey. Not all men are promiscuous pigs, and not all women are cheating whores. Believe it or not, there are quite a few men and women who are quite pleasant and pleasurable to be with. It is you, my darling, who should 'stay out of the oven'. You don't like the fact that someone could last in a relationship? Okay. You've had some bad luck, assumingly. Don't take it out on us. You don't know the outcome of the OP's relationship. The only person the OP can answer to, and listen to, is herself, and her boyfriend. Only they can determine the outcome of this. Not you. Not I. And not my cat. Stop giving advice on something you know nothing about. Raiku Posted at 11:05 am on Aug. 10, 2008 Quote: from TigressaLynnMae at 4:05 pm on Aug. 5, 2008 but its true women always cheat on guys Just as true as it is that men only think about sex, when it comes to their partners. AKA: Stop generalizing. You're going to scare away the OP. Try someone new. Sometimes it just to move on. Or, if you love someone, distance knows no boundaries, and, in fact, can make the love grow stronger. think i give a shit? dont like the heat, stay out of the oven TigressaLynnMae Posted at 1:05 pm on Aug. 5, 2008 but its true women always cheat on guys Just as true as it is that men only think about sex, when it comes to their partners. AKA: Stop generalizing. You're going to scare away the OP. Try someone new.  Sometimes it just to move on. Or, if you love someone, distance knows no boundaries, and, in fact, can make the love grow stronger. jamesish Posted at 12:54 pm on Aug. 5, 2008 Try someone new.  Sometimes it just to move on. nik1 Posted at 10:28 am on Aug. 5, 2008 Focus on your studies.  If he's worth having he will be worth waiting for.  If he's trustworthy and your relationship is good he will wait for you. mzRaye Posted at 11:34 pm on Aug. 4, 2008 it depends. How long have you been with your boyfriend? and do both of you understand how hard its going to be and are still going to be willing to work on it and stay together?? If you two feel that way then it just miight work. Just be there for each other through the hardships. And if one feels a little lonely or feels like the other is straying, then don't get defensive and just tell them its nothing. Be there for each other and tell em that there's nothing to worry about and you're in this for the long run. But honestly, its hard to be in hard distance relationships. I think this might be a good time for both of you two explore the world. If you two are really meant to be, you'll end up together in the future. good luck <3 Raiku Posted at 10:37 am on Aug. 4, 2008 Quote: from TigressaLynnMae at 2:54 pm on July 31, 2008 cheat on him youll do it anyway Don't listen to this asshat. If you love him, and he loves you, love will know no boundaries. but its true women always cheat on guys twilightdancer Posted at 11:59 am on Aug. 2, 2008 2 of my friends met their boyfriends in high school, and they went to different colleges than their boyfriends, so they were about 2-3 hours apart during the school year. It's been a year, and both couples are doing great :) So don't worry too much; if you both want to stay together, you will! imjusttryin2beme Posted at 7:43 am on Aug. 1, 2008 If you are happy and want to stay with him then do. It is your choice. At first it might be hard because you will be adjusting to a new school and a new place. But it doesn't mean that things will be easier just because you are not with him.  I was in a long distance relationship when I first went to school and I am still with my boyfriend 3 years later. My advice is communicate about things when they come up and talk on the phone when you can. Not seeing each other every day gets easier. Good luck no matter what you do.   TigressaLynnMae Posted at 11:54 am on July 31, 2008 cheat on him youll do it anyway Don't listen to this asshat. If you love him, and he loves you, love will know no boundaries. crzymestchik Posted at 10:41 pm on July 30, 2008 I don't want to find another bf. Ive been dating him for over 3 years now. I just want to know how to deal with not seeing him as much. Most recent 15 of 21 previous replies displayed.