Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Sibling's friends off-limits? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post river girl Posted at 10:57 pm on Nov. 6, 2008 I'm admit it, I have a thing for my brother's friend!   He is actually my friend too, but I wouldn't know him if it weren't for my brother.  The only time we really see each other (if other than chance around campus) is when my brother, his friend, and me go to concerts together.  I've actually known him since I was in high school because I'd go with them to concerts back then too. I had a "crush" on him immediately but didn't even think much of it since he was a college guy, after all. I have seen him around campus and talk with him. He's only two years older than me. I've randomly seen him in the dinning hall and have eaten dinner with him several times. I got Facebook when I got to college. He was one of the first people to add me as a friend, yay! There's really no way to know if he's even interested in me. He's obviously not going to make a pass at me with my brother right there. It would get the "dude, that's my sister!" response most likely. I look at it two ways about my brother: he's either get creeped out I like his friend and possibly not invite me to concerts with them anymore, or else thinks its cool I'd date someone he already approves of and likes. I don't know how to bring it up, "Hey I'm interested in Mike." That would be a bit forward. My brother and I get along surprisingly well for siblings. He's four years older than me so it's just old enough that we weren't close enough to be fighting all the time.  He's the only one I've got and he's one of my best friends. But we never talk much about our personal lives so that's why it would be odd to bring up his friend. Since we are good friends, I'd like whoever I date to get along well with my brother. My only other boyfriend (childhood friend-turned boyfriend) didn't get along too well with my brother. So what are the rules for dating a sibling's friend? Is it off limits? I don't want to make things weird between my brother and his friend since they're good friends. Any advice?

Replies nik1 Posted at 10:29 am on Nov. 8, 2008 My suggestion is to ask your brother to have dinner with you one night and that you would like to discuss something with him.   Tell him how important he is to you and how much you respect him and his opinions.  I would suggest that for this reason you know he would never have a friend that was much different than himself and you have grown to become interested in so and so.  Ask him for his blessing to see if he would be interested in you as well.   Don't oversell it.  Just make your statement and let him talk. gdeeaz Posted at 11:06 pm on Nov. 6, 2008 my brother and i are very close and his friends are off limits just as my friends are off limits to him. if you do decide to go out with the guy you have to remember that if things don't work out between the two of you it will more then likely end not only your relationship with the guy but your brothers relationship with the guy. LyricalAffair Posted at 11:02 pm on Nov. 6, 2008 Dude. Just no... Just say no. It ruins relationships with those friends and with the siblings if things go sour. iamgodzilla Posted at 11:02 pm on Nov. 6, 2008 Quote: from viper09 at 10:59 pm on Nov. 6, 2008 ask him out ^^ viper09 Posted at 10:59 pm on Nov. 6, 2008 ask him out All 5 previous replies displayed.