Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Is it wrong not wanting to be with him because of his family? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post horseylover19 Posted at 3:48 pm on Dec. 25, 2008 The boyfriend and I have been going out for 8 months now. His mother doesn't like me anymore and does not accept me. Back when we just started dating *2/3 months*, I had a run in with the law. I went to jail for 15 days. I asked him if he wanted me to tell his parents about why I was in there, he said no. He didn't want his mother knowing. In the bottom of my heart, I wanted to tell her because she was going to find out eventually. We told his parents I was babysitting. I'm pretty sure she knew that I wasn't babysitting, but didn't know what was going on. Out of the family and friends of the family, she was the last to know. *the second to know, but not say she knew* It's now December but she really hasn't liked me since the bf left for college. *August* Now when he comes home to visit, I can't come to his house;he has to come to mine, he can only be here until 11:00pm, *he just turned 21 and still has a curfew,*but when he's with his friends, he can stay out all night* I didn't even get to go to his birthday dinner last night but I got to go to his mother's bday dinner. I think that's a little messed up. His dad's bday is new years eve and they're having a huge party. The family friends will be there and the bf's friends. I'm gonna be pretty angry if i don't get invited because his mother hates me. I really love him * i know what love is* but I can't stand his mother. It's not right her not liking me. She loved me during the summer when he was here. Besides the whole jail thing, i've done nothing wrong.

Replies Mishy Posted at 1:42 pm on Jan. 5, 2009 Why don't you just apologize to his mother about not telling her about the jail time sooner?  Explaining to her that it was a minor incident and you didn't want her to think anything less of you.  This might show her that you are willing to work things out and compromise.   And its perfectly within her right to stop her son from seeing you.  if she supports him financially and he loves and respects his mother there is no point in trying to undermin her rules.  i think talking with her and maybe agreeing on a later cerfew and spending some time with her may help improve things. chikichicky Posted at 10:08 am on Jan. 3, 2009 You should be telling your boyfriend how much this bothers you and maybe get more information regarding what his mother thinks of you. From the signs, it seems that his mother is making some sort of an effort in trying to control the amount of time you two spend together. Now since he's 21, he can very well make his own decisions and do what he WANTS to do. So what's it going to be? Allow his mother to control his relationship or love you? ChandraMoon Posted at 7:48 pm on Jan. 1, 2009 I think what you were in jail for is relevant to this topic. His mom might be a bitch, but you might be someone she understandably wouldn't want to date her son. definite124 Posted at 12:43 pm on Dec. 30, 2008 tell him to face his mother? talk to her? this is humiliating for u and noone deserves that lucky015 Posted at 2:22 pm on Dec. 26, 2008 His mother needs to wake up and realise that she has no right to control who he dates or how much time he spends with you, Dont let it splt you up, Be with him all you can... I dont understand how parents can think they have the right to control their sons and daugjters wen their that old, Im 16 and my mother doesnt even have half that amount of control over me... nik1 Posted at 1:45 pm on Dec. 26, 2008 Hmmmm.......reverse the role.  How would your Mother feel towards him if he spent 15 days in jail? GeneCosta Posted at 6:20 am on Dec. 26, 2008 Uh, well going to jail is a big deal that can't be so dismissed. 15 days sounds like minor theft or public intoxication. If you two see a future together (marriage), go for it. Lots of people have problems with their in-laws. If you don't, you probably need to reassess your relationship. I went through similar circumstances and it just takes a toll on your life. Natsy Posted at 3:50 pm on Dec. 25, 2008 "besides the whole jail thing" XD lolss xx All 8 previous replies displayed.