Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Coping Skills? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post wingedmisery Posted at 5:41 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 I have been cutting since I was 16, I am not 23 and I haven't SI in 4 months, however, I really want to. I was wondering what some of you do in order to cope with things? I am trying really hard not to, as I don't want my girlfriend to see the injuries/scars so I am trying to keep myself from doing it. I need advice...

Replies wingedmisery Posted at 5:54 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 Thats a good point, DarkEyes.. unfortunately, my girl is doing something right now and we haven't been together long enough to explain the urge to her. However, 4 months is the longest I have gone without cutting in years.. I think it would be a BAD idea to throw that away... scarsonmyarm Posted at 5:51 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 Quote: from wingedmisery at 8:41 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 I have been cutting since I was 16, I am not 23 and I haven't SI in 4 months, however, I really want to. I was wondering what some of you do in order to cope with things? I am trying really hard not to, as I don't want my girlfriend to see the injuries/scars so I am trying to keep myself from doing it. I need advice... I usually shoot rubber bands at walls or throw stress balls at walls. Writing in a journal or just writing about something, even if it doesn't relate to you in any way helps. I put all my sharps in a jar up in a really high place with a lock on it, and I'm too lazy to go and get them. The only down side to that is that I can't open mail very easy, etc. I also listen to very loud music in my room. Play frisbee with your dog/friend/a tree. Try to throw a boomerang -- and get it to come back to you. Read a book from when you were a kid, such as Junie B. Jones. Make lists of lists, look up lists online. Shop eBay. Write down inspiring/cool/hard to spell/hard to say words. Write them with a good amount of space between the letters and press hard with your pencil/pen. Look for pictures in the clouds/ceiling. Drink a ton of tea. Listen to an old old old cd. Get a pet rock and treat it like a dog/cat/ferret. Wow that's a lot. Sorry, I would've put them on different lines if I knew it was going to be that long. DarkEyes Posted at 5:49 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 Quote: from JMACCA at 5:42 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 Quote: from thehappycow at 8:41 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 how do u cut without killing urself im scared to do it were do i do it Umm...don't. Then you won't have to worry. Agreed. If you start, it will only create a bad habit for you and a world that will eventually turn into a black hole. You don't need it now, keep it that way. If you cut now then it will only feed the habit that you have been able to put off for 4 months. That means that 4 months have gone right nown the toilet the second you cut. There are better ways to cope and a good way to keep yourself from cutting is to wrap your mind around something else than the urge. Do something with your girl to keep yourself occupied and let her presence be the reminder of why you don't want to cut. You sure as hell don't need it, thats something I figured out from my youth. notanisland Posted at 5:45 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 do ANYTHING to get your mind off of it. paint draw take a walk call a friend take a relaxing bath go for a run read write tell your self 15 more min then when that is up keep repeating it until you dont want to anymore use an ice cube. amiee Posted at 5:45 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 153 Things To Do Instead of Self Harm Is there a reason for your self harming? Like, are there things going on in your life (or have things happened before) that make you want to self harm? Working on the reasons behind the SH (if there are any) can really help a great deal. cash money carnivore Posted at 5:44 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 Marijuana might help. JMACCA Posted at 5:42 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 Quote: from thehappycow at 8:41 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 how do u cut without killing urself im scared to do it were do i do it Umm...don't. Then you won't have to worry. Virgo Posted at 5:42 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 get pro help asia freak Posted at 5:42 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 I used cocoa butter and eucerin lotion to heal my scars. They fade away somewhat. As to cope with cutting just rub cold ice over where you usually cut. Or maybe use a rubber band. Merlinman2005 Posted at 5:42 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 rubber band on the wrist snap it for quick pain also, chewing gum and drinking thehappycow Posted at 5:41 pm on Mar. 24, 2008 how do u cut without killing urself im scared to do it were do i do it All 11 previous replies displayed.