Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic My Family Found Out Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 9:09 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 I'm really scared. I've been visiting my aunt's house every holiday for the past 10 years or so, and she lives about 3 hours away. About 3 years ago, my cousin came onto me, and I was really nieve about sex at the time. He's even a year younger than me. Anyway, I was all confused and gave in, not really knowing what else to do. By the time I visited again, I knew quite a bit more, and that what we were doing was wrong beyond all considerations. But I coundn't stop it, I didn't even try all that hard and still went along with all of it. It's happened quite a few more times after that, but a year ago, New Year's Eve, I finally told him no and he was really pissed. But I got it to stop. It made things really umcomfortable between us. Anyway, where I'm getting at is that this year, my aunt and her family came down to visit us. And just this morning, while I was still asleep, my cousin told my boyfriend that we've had sex. Mu uncle heard, and the first thing I see when I wake up is my uncle dragging me out of bed and into the livingroom. And I was still out of it when he started throwing questions at me and there was so much yelling. A lot of it is still a haze for me, but I need help with how to deal with this. I always felt so guilty and finally, finally right before christmas, at church, I was able to forgive myself as much as I could. Now it's all come back slapping me in the face. I was so ready to put it all behind me! I haven't spoken to him yet today, but we are both gonna go through hell for a long while. But I'm so scared...and I still feel like crying, even though I've been freaking crying all day, and I never cry. I feel horrible, and I've got such a bad headace, and right now every single fmily memeber here is at eachother's throats, trying to pin the blame. I seriously don't know what to do. I don't even know why he said what he did....and my boyfriend gave me the dirtiest look ever...I'm so messed up. I really fucked up, I'm so lost as to what to do...and I'm old enough to be kicked out...and I'm afraid all of it is gonna pull back to me, since I'm a year older. Any advice? Please?

Replies lxxlhaleylxxl Posted at 12:09 am on Jan. 2, 2007 Thats just...nasty... lol. But atleast you got him to stop. they shouldnt really get mad at you for it, it seems like you were pressured into doing it anyway. Ghostatmypc Posted at 11:25 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 ill talk to you about just message me Ghostatmypc Posted at 11:23 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 Quote: from William9211 at 2:02 am on Jan. 2, 2007 really it is your problem to because you let him do it the first time and all the other times.... you had the chance to say no and you didnt so to me it sounds like you wanted it the first time and all the other times. well thats kind of mean dont you think William9211 Posted at 11:02 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 really it is your problem to because you let him do it the first time and all the other times.... you had the chance to say no and you didnt so to me it sounds like you wanted it the first time and all the other times. Coolslayr Posted at 10:55 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 family counciling should resolve this issue PixieIyz Posted at 10:03 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 I agree. let them know u relaized what u all were doing was horrible. that in the beginning u were confused and naive. now that uve ended it he wants to hurt you. dumb of him cuz he hurt himself too. dotn hate urself ok. i was molested by a cuzn and till this day he and his mum deny it, BUT I REMEMBER. Anonymous Posted at 9:58 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 thanx, everyone, for the kind help. Rastafarian Posted at 9:21 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 Umm.. I'll try to help as best as I can. Let see where to begin, I'd say your cousin is the biggest douche ever. But regardless lets get onto you. Right now it seems you'll really need to explain yourself and try and tell your family what was going on. Tell them that the first time it happened you didn't know what was going on, and it basically seems like he raped you. Later you realized it was wrong and yet still went along with it. That was bad of you, you should tell them that it was a mistake and that you've learned from it. Tell them basically what you've told us. That you were ready to put it behind you and never do that again. You need to tell them that you denied your cousin after you knew much more about the consequences of such actions, and therefore caused what appears to be this stab at hurting you out of spite from him. Personally, I say beat him at his own game, but be completely honest. Now about your boyfriend. Tell him what happened, and that you didn't mean or want it to be or even turn out this way at all. Really from this perspective it doesn't seem to be your fault at all. I suggest that you try and get your family to see were you are coming from in all of this. Regardless to say, I am really sorry this happened to you. This has probably made a huge mark in hurting relations with your family and boyfriend all because of your cousin. Pm me if you need anything. iloveto Posted at 9:14 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 The only thing you can really do now is sit through it and apologise. You did the wrong thing, and wtih the wrong thing comes consequences. Don't yell, scream, or be immature about it. You made an adult decision, you will now see the adult consequences. Having said that.. Good luck. I hope it blows over. blueandyellow Posted at 9:12 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 wow....that must be horrible. i think you just have to go through this, talk to your cousin....boyfriend. maybe you should also apologize to your family...? i don't know...wow with your cousin?? though i'm really sorry they found out drowningmyself Posted at 9:12 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 please message me on livewire or on aim if you can, i would love to help but it isn't as easy as posting a phrase on a forum icyunvme Posted at 9:12 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 from what you've just said i feel scared Party Boy Posted at 9:12 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 just leave it behind you? Shit like that sept not family invovled kinda happened to me and now i can talk about it without and gilt cause i just forgot about it and let it pass away. =) PetitOiseau Posted at 9:11 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 It sort of sounds like your cousin may have raped you. I would explain to your family and your boyfriend that the first time you had sex, you were too young to really know what was going on. I'd also say that you couldn't stop the cousin from having sex with you the other times. The problem I believe lies with the cousin - they sound sick, and it sounds like rape. xoelizabeth417 Posted at 9:11 pm on Jan. 1, 2007 Woah. You just need to talk to someone. Is there someone in your family you trust more? Someone that is willing to see things from your point of view possibly? Try that. Just try getting someone to help you deal wiht the yelling nad the screaming, talk to someone they respect maybe to step in. Be strong. Most recent 15 of 15 previous replies displayed.