Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic white parents vs black parents? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post boombabyboom Posted at 12:17 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Do you think white parents and black parents raise their kids differently? This is meant to be and intelligent speculation of thoughts and ideas, so only respond if you have something nice to contriubute. Some people make the argument that black parents are a lot more strict with their kids, and white parents a lot more leniant. If that's the case, why are there so many black "gangstas" in jail, and mini britney spears running around? I'm half black, half "other" I guess you could say. my dad is mixed, puerto rican and irish. Out of my parents my dad is the more leniant one, although that doesn't mean I don't get in trouble. My dad tries to understand me better, although if I mess up he's not afraid to punish me. My mom is from africa- she's nigerian and shes the reason as to why I'm always grounded, lololol. discuss, I'm curious as to what other people think

Replies Bud2400 Posted at 1:55 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 I'd suggest taking a look at this link: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Parenting_styles Of the three main type of parenting styles (authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive), I have read studies (it was awhile go, though, so I don't have any on hand) that the parenting styles of whites tend to be authoritative while the parenting styles of blacks tend to be authoritarian.  Obviously there are exceptions, and putting labels on parenting styles can be rather iffy at best, but the general tendency would most likely hold true considering that the same people would be recording both races and would notice the general differences if they exist (in other words, getting specific doesn't work so well, but in general, you see something). Authoritative essentially means rules are set and that the child is encouraged to discuss the rules and engage in open dialogue with the parents.  It can be strict (and at times it might not be), but it essentially tries to get the child to understand why the rule is in place.  This encourages independent thinking. Authoritarian essentially means the parent says the rules are there just because.  No real effort at explaining why the rules are in place is given. Whites have a higher tendency than blacks to fall under authoritative parenting styles, and blacks have a higher tendency than whites to fall under authoritarian styles according to studies I've read years ago.  One of the proposed reasons I remember for this tend be along the lines that whites in general hold higher level positions that require independent thinking which would encourage authoritative parenting whereas blacks tend to hold blue collar positions where questioning the workplace rules would only invite trouble. I'd be a bit skeptical, though, because it seems to suggest that blacks are not independent thinkers, which I personally don't think is totally true, especially as you get to know blacks who do hold these jobs that would require independent thinking.  Supposedly a white collar middle class black family would engage in an authoritative parenting style as much as whites do if the proposed reason I remember were true, but I don't believe that to be the case. Moreover, the entire idea of authoritative, authoritarian, and permissive parenting styles is rather biased, I think.  The whole notion of it is set up to glorify the authoritative parenting style as the best.  The studies I've read also seem to suggest that authoritarian parenting styles is partially the reason why blacks are where they are collectively at in society today, which I don't think is entirely true, because I get the general sense that Asian families are every bit as authoritarian as black families.  Perhaps in a different way, though, but authoritarian does not necessarily equal bad and it would serve people well to bear that in mind. Duke Posted at 12:44 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 You cannot generalize such things, nor can you draw any hard and fast rules based on racial lines. Some people raise their kids poorly, and some raise their kids well; it's just that simple. Even in so called "bad areas" or "hoods" there are good, honest people trying to raise their kids and keep them away from whatever negative influences there are. Again, this is true, Black, White, Asian. Hispanic, whatever. CherryxBomb Posted at 12:32 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 jesus effing christ people stop with the stereotyping already! geeze! >_< im black, and I know my dad! Actually he's in my life! And i know so many blacks who have fathers too! So stop with the stereotyping, there arent as many father-less black kids as you think. hersheyparker Posted at 12:27 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Color doesn't matter. It is cultural and how their parents raised them along with personal dicission making. Kristen exohh Posted at 12:27 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from GoodFairy13 at 4:23 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Kristen exohh at 12:22 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from GoodFairy13 at 4:19 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 I think african people are more protective of their children because of the children that are so often dying in africa.     White parents don't understnad that emotion fully so they're more lenient?    Nor do most black people living in America. Wasn't using that example of black people.   I see you noticed? Lol@me. ronda Posted at 12:27 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 No, its to do with their culture I think, it just so happens that different races do quite often belong to different cultures and subcultures. GoodFairy13 Posted at 12:23 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Kristen exohh at 12:22 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from GoodFairy13 at 4:19 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 I think african people are more protective of their children because of the children that are so often dying in africa.    White parents don't understnad that emotion fully so they're more lenient? Nor do most black people living in America. Wasn't using that example of black people. I see you noticed?   Kristen exohh Posted at 12:22 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from GoodFairy13 at 4:19 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 I think african people are more protective of their children because of the children that are so often dying in africa. White parents don't understnad that emotion fully so they're more lenient? Chiefette Posted at 12:22 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Just the general atmosphere, the values, morals etc.  I can't put a finger on it. boombabyboom Posted at 12:21 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Glory at 12:20 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 I think they are raised differently. It's not necessarily a bad thing, but I think they are. One of my black friends has like 15 half siblings...his daddy got around. My dad has a bunch of kids too, I don't actually know how many... In what ways do you think they're raised differently? Kristen exohh Posted at 12:21 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Perhaps, I don't think that's always the case. In my opinion, I think that black families often raise their kids to have more respect for the parents and family. I think strictness is really varied with each parent. switchfoot52 Posted at 12:21 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 black kids r usually raised by just there mothers who probably try to be strict but since daddies in jail it doesn't work so well. white kids are more likely to have both parents but both parents are at work. so it equals out to about the same Chiefette Posted at 12:20 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 I think they are raised differently.  It's not necessarily a bad thing, but I think they are.   One of my black friends has like 15 half siblings...his daddy got around.  My dad has a bunch of kids too, I don't actually know how many... identitycrisis Posted at 12:20 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 i know this whole black neighborhood that teaches their kids how to steal bikes and stuff from garage sales because they know their kids wont go to jail for it, underage boombabyboom Posted at 12:20 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from LaWhoren at 12:18 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 it has nothing to do with race as usual it has to do with fucking people who have different ideals get over the race thing I agree, I was just wondering what everyone else thought, lol Most recent 15 of 19 previous replies displayed.