Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Nice one, dickhead. [Rant, feel free to ignore this] Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Chasey Posted at 8:35 am on Nov. 10, 2008 Why, why the fuck would he consider coming to see me in college a good idea - even though I've told him I dont want to speak to him, and even though I've TOLD him that I'm already getting enough shit off other students for being gay as it is, without him being all over me in front of them.   I can so see myself getting gaybashed at some point this week.. I can just tell it's gonna happen. And it's his fucking fault. None of this would have happened if he hadn't decided to "do what's best for me" and go around telling everyone about my sexuality, even though it's CLEARLY going to result in so many bad things happening to me. And now he's kicking off on me, saying that "if I'm not open about our relationship then clearly I don't love him". Sure, go ahead, make me feel guilty. To be honest, he's probably right. I probably am too selfish and paranoid, and not caring enough to come out for him.   I try to love him enough to come out, but the fear of me being ridiculed, humiliated, outcast and physically abused for the next two years does NOT appeal to me, and I just don't think it's worth me coming out to them when we could just as easily keep our relationship a fucking secret. Then I wouldn't have to put up with all this shit. Christ.

Replies bangalore Posted at 12:25 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 I don't think you're being selfish at all. I feel like he's being extremely selfish and not respecting your wishes. It's not like you're embarrassed of him, you don't want the negative attention and I see nothing wrong with that. Chasey Posted at 8:58 am on Nov. 10, 2008 Quote: from Soultear at 4:58 pm on Nov. 10, 2008 aww thats not good. does he not realise the situation ur in at school? but then again hes probs just coming to see u coz he loves u Yeahh he knows.. I guess I shouldn't be so hard on him, but I'm just scared of getting beat up. Soultear Posted at 8:58 am on Nov. 10, 2008 aww thats not good. does he not realise the situation ur in at school? but then again hes probs just coming to see u coz he loves u nadiiasorgente Posted at 8:53 am on Nov. 10, 2008 Awh, I wish i could say i know how you feel but i cant I do know how it feels to know that if people find out about something you will no doubt be made fun of for as long as you can think ahead. I dont know really what to say. I guess i can just wish you luck and hope for the best :) crystal 81308 Posted at 8:47 am on Nov. 10, 2008 aww sucks:( xsuziex Posted at 8:41 am on Nov. 10, 2008 fuck. damnit that sucks bigtime and i have to say, i know what being bashed around for being gay/bi feels like. =[ theres very few guys like you. people should be happy for you. =[ Firefly00 Posted at 8:40 am on Nov. 10, 2008 This is a usual problem in a gay relationship. Especially when one of you is out and proud and the other doesn't wish to tell anyone. And let's be honest, people don't have to know, do they? Although I see where you're coming from and I'd probably do the same in your position apart of me wants just to suggest coming out and facing it. Mainly because it's not your problem. You're happy, right? That's all that matters. Fuck these haters. Plus, if you come out and say 'look, this is who I am' people are more likely to respect you and get used to it. However, it's not fair for your boyfriend to tell everyone for you. Whatever you choose, is your choice, not his. He needs to respect your choice. The Fantasy Posted at 8:38 am on Nov. 10, 2008 Awh god, that sucks. :( All 8 previous replies displayed.