Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic i really need advice... Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 4:01 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Hey, I suffer from a eating disorder... (under) eating; and i really don't know what i should do... like its been almost a year of "having self control" but now i realise my e.d took the self control back off me... so now i have none.. thing is i really wanna tell my mum about my e.d and i wanna tell my friends... but i never talk to my friends about anything that bothers me... :( and well i hardly speak to my mum we aint like so close... i really want to get better... ive tried my self but i fail.. i just dont know what to do anymore... i dont know who to tell i cant go the doctors cause im scared to go alone... =( and no friend will come with me. cause they dont know (apart from one friend who i hardly everrrrrrrr see) (well since 2 yr ago!!) so yeah i need some serious advice please? cause im actually in tears cause im so scared... please help :'(

Replies Beautifullybroken13 Posted at 10:33 am on Nov. 9, 2008  I myself suffer from an eating disorder I have been in thearpay for almost a year and finally broke down and told her I am in recovery now maybe u should telling a therapist ot other close relative trust me I was scared as well but I learned that I needed help when I ended up in the hospital from a ruptured ulcer caused by the e d do yourself a favor and tell someone u consider close sunshyne847 Posted at 7:24 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 aww sweetie, u don't even understand how much i can relate to everything ur going through right now. That was me for the past few years, and 6 months ago i just came right out and asked for help because i realized how scared it was making me and how out of control I felt and that nobody could see that. pm me and I can help you, or at least have someone to talk to. Anonymous Posted at 4:20 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Quote: from FallingAwayFromMe at 12:18 am on Nov. 8, 2008 My friends get really pissy when I make negative comments about how I look... but when I came out and told them that I had a serious problem even the most arrogant self-absorbed friends of mine seemed genuinely concerned. I really don't know where I'd be without my best friend to talk sense into me. Obviously you'll get a few arseholes that will accuse you of all sorts, you just need to rise above that and focus on solving the problem in hand. And I'm sure your mum would like to know whats going on with you, she may even already suspect a problem, if you aren't that close you've got nothing to loose by telling her. she would laugh at me though say i dont cause im fat and stuff :'( Anonymous Posted at 4:19 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 You need to tell someone. I know it is hard and it will be, but i went through the same thing. luckily i got through mine on my own, but it was SOOO hard. I didnt tell my friends until after and even now only one knows. I have to be SO careful so I dont slip back into it. It is now something I will have to watch so closely on my own because I was too afraid of telling someone. I really wish I had someone, and if you haev someone there for you it will make the recovery a whole lot easier. FallingAwayFromMe Posted at 4:18 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 My friends get really pissy when I make negative comments about how I look... but when I came out and told them that I had a serious problem even the most arrogant self-absorbed friends of mine seemed genuinely concerned. I really don't know where I'd be without my best friend to talk sense into me. Obviously you'll get a few arseholes that will accuse you of all sorts, you just need to rise above that and focus on solving the problem in hand. And I'm sure your mum would like to know whats going on with you, she may even already suspect a problem, if you aren't that close you've got nothing to loose by telling her. Anonymous Posted at 4:16 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:10 am on Nov. 8, 2008 Quote: from FallingAwayFromMe at 12:06 am on Nov. 8, 2008 Just tell a couple of friends, and if they are true friends then they will do everything they can to help you through this, that includes taking you to the Dr's. Its good that you want help, accepting you have a problem is the first step.     Why do you feel you can't tell your mum? or friends? They may not fully understand, but they will support you through this, and that's what you need right now.   i guess im just scared...   but me and my mum are not close so im scared she wont care cause shes like that... n also im scared it might pull us furthur apart... cos i wud avoid her cause i dnt like talking about how i feel in person...   and my friends well cause they would thinks its either for attention or sum shit :( i dunno i h8 this No i do not have one.... my school has some staff that deal with all that but i cant talk to them i hate them and still do NOT trust them paperskyx Posted at 4:14 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 4:08 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Quote: from paperskyx at 12:05 am on Nov. 8, 2008 Hey there, eating disorders are hard to deal with, but your family and friends do care about you. It's a scary thing to deal with. You need to talk to your friends about this, and if they don't care, then they aren't real friends. You could also talk to a family member you trust the most, or a guidance counselor. Any of those people could help you through this and encourage you to stop under eating. Please don't starve yourself, I went through this as well, and it doesn't do any good. I CANT im really really scared to ask anyone for help :(   ...   and i dont know if telling my friends is wise... they might spread it about Well if you don't trust your friends then you shouldn't tell them, and you shouldn't confide anything in them, either. Do you have a school guidance counselor? I know it's hard, but she/he will take it seriously and keep it confidential and give you great advice and support. She/he will not judge you. It is important for you to get help. Anonymous Posted at 4:10 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Quote: from FallingAwayFromMe at 12:06 am on Nov. 8, 2008 Just tell a couple of friends, and if they are true friends then they will do everything they can to help you through this, that includes taking you to the Dr's. Its good that you want help, accepting you have a problem is the first step.   Why do you feel you can't tell your mum? or friends? They may not fully understand, but they will support you through this, and that's what you need right now. i guess im just scared... but me and my mum are not close so im scared she wont care cause shes like that... n also im scared it might pull us furthur apart... cos i wud avoid her cause i dnt like talking about how i feel in person... and my friends well cause they would thinks its either for attention or sum shit :( i dunno i h8 this Anonymous Posted at 4:08 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Quote: from paperskyx at 12:05 am on Nov. 8, 2008 Hey there, eating disorders are hard to deal with, but your family and friends do care about you. It's a scary thing to deal with. You need to talk to your friends about this, and if they don't care, then they aren't real friends. You could also talk to a family member you trust the most, or a guidance counselor. Any of those people could help you through this and encourage you to stop under eating. Please don't starve yourself, I went through this as well, and it doesn't do any good. I CANT im really really scared to ask anyone for help :( ... and i dont know if telling my friends is wise... they might spread it about FallingAwayFromMe Posted at 4:06 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Just tell a couple of friends, and if they are true friends then they will do everything they can to help you through this, that includes taking you to the Dr's. Its good that you want help, accepting you have a problem is the first step. Why do you feel you can't tell your mum? or friends? They may not fully understand, but they will support you through this, and that's what you need right now. Anonymous Posted at 4:05 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Quote: from Isaias Arenas at 12:03 am on Nov. 8, 2008 just eat YOU REALLY THINK I WOULD OV WASTED MA TIME TYPING ALL THIS IF I CUD JUST EAT ANOREXIA IS A MENTAL DISORDER!! SO FUCK U crazychica21 Posted at 4:05 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 hey. i think that u should tell your friends because if they are your friends they will help you and you should also tell your mom. i think that once you are comfortable with telling your friends that kind of stuff you should go to see a doctor. dont be scared of telling someone or asking for help because true friends will always help you no matter what and they wont judge. the seer Posted at 4:05 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 eating disorders can evolve into real issues you need to see a doctor even if it is by yourself. paperskyx Posted at 4:05 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 Hey there, eating disorders are hard to deal with, but your family and friends do care about you. It's a scary thing to deal with. You need to talk to your friends about this, and if they don't care, then they aren't real friends. You could also talk to a family member you trust the most, or a guidance counselor. Any of those people could help you through this and encourage you to stop under eating. Please don't starve yourself, I went through this as well, and it doesn't do any good. Anonymous Posted at 4:04 pm on Nov. 7, 2008 I use to take tums before I ate to help me from gagging. Most recent 15 of 18 previous replies displayed.