Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Pregnant at 14!! Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post ambilove Posted at 8:20 am on Jan. 6, 2009 Help!!!!!

Replies Shogun villimax Posted at 2:56 pm on Jan. 6, 2009 Quote: from ambilove at 8:20 am on Jan. 6, 2009 Help!!!!! You'd better get to work on you'r GED or something! DADDYS LITTLE GIRL Posted at 2:30 pm on Jan. 6, 2009 Does your bf know about the baby? If not then you need to tell him and then your parents, they won't be happy at first but once they calm down they'll be a big help and supportive. Considering you don't want to abort you need to choose whether you want to keep the child or put it up for adoption based on what you and your bf feel is best. I have a friend who had a baby a couple months ago,she was only 15 and now has a beautiful baby girl. Being pregnant in your teen years is never easy but with the support of friends and family you can make it through. Being a teen mom is hard but she loves every minute of it. If you haven't been already you need to see a doctor to make sure all is well and other then that try not to get yourself to worried about it just take things day by day and give yourself time to think about what you and your bf want to do, you can't change whats already done so just make the best of it. good luck! Chiefette Posted at 11:33 am on Jan. 6, 2009 You can make one of three choices.   You can have an abortion You can give the baby up for adoption or You can keep the baby.   You need to tell your parents though.  I would however decide what your intentions are before you tell your parents.  That way it works out to what you want, not what your parents want.  You are less likely to be swayed if you already have your mind set. dunebug Posted at 9:20 am on Jan. 6, 2009 I'm going to work on the assumption that you're going to keep your baby. One of the largest concerns is how you're going to financially support a child. A lot of people will try and scare you with costs, but from one low-income mum to another, it's still a lot of money. At the very least, just for the baby you're looking at around $400/month.  That's not including medical costs or 'extras.' You should look into getting on WIC and/or maybe welfare, to help cover the costs as I doubt you're working or going to work and I doubt that your boyfriend can support this child completely on his own. The best piece of advice other then that I can give is to educate yourself on as many pregnancy and parenting related topics as you can. The more informed you are, the easier things go and the better choices you'll make for yourself and your child. There's a lot of confusing, complex parenting issues that you're going to have to tackle and an educated decision is always the best policy. The best website I can recommend for that is http://www.babycenter.com :-) Good luck hun. ambilove Posted at 8:49 am on Jan. 6, 2009 thanx ambilove Posted at 8:48 am on Jan. 6, 2009 some of you give such good advice- thank you so much it is really helping. but i cant abort- i couldnt live with it! biSEXual Posted at 8:39 am on Jan. 6, 2009 hey, I just read your post about being 14 and pregnant. First, just know you arent alone. I was pregnant with my daughter at 16. There are alot of decisions you must now make for the future of yourself, and your child. I suggest you speak with your parents/guardian/someone about your situation. Informing the child's father doesn't hurt either. He may be willing to help you through this. There ARE agencies that WILL help teenage moms! Although I live in Canada, and subsiquentialy affiliate myself with Canadian organizations, Im quite confident the US has some similar programs. Try looking up the Terra Association, they may operate in the united states. Best of luck to your, you child, and your bf. Sat Nam BubbleCake Posted at 8:39 am on Jan. 6, 2009 Hey there, This certainly seems like a tough situation. And of course it would be. Teen pregnancy is difficult too deal with for so many different reasons. I'll try and offer the best advice I can on this situation. You do have options. The options you has are; 1. Keeping your baby, 2. Adoption and 3. Abortion. 1. Keeping the baby involves a lot of responsibilities. Staying up at night, not being about to go out much with friends, changing nappies, night feeds and then of course the expenses. Having a baby can be very expensive. I doubt you would be able to support a child financially at 14 years old. What about school? Because if so you would need to think will you and your boyfriend be able too handle a child and go to school/college/work at the same time. So as I have said, having a baby involves a lot of responsibilities. You must really think about keeping your baby. 2. Adoption. Another option you have. You have read about the responsibilities up above. If you feel like you can't or won't be able too handle these, adoption is probably a much better option for you. Your baby will be given too someone who will be able too deal with these responsibilities. That way you would be able to get on with your adolescence. 3. Abortion. The last and final option you have. I'm sure you know what this involves. Getting rid of your baby all together. It can be an emotional and painful experience and may not what you want. Think about this before you go through with it. Its important for you and your boyfriend to talk to both of your parents. They need to know what is going on and its best not to keep this a secret. They are your parents and will always love you no matter what happens. At first they may be upset/shocked/annoyed but they will be able to get through this together. Go to your doctor as soon as you can and they will be able to help you decide what the best option for you is. I hope that helps you out a bit. If you would like to talk, message me anytime. Good luck! Pagie1 Posted at 8:34 am on Jan. 6, 2009 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations Maxxie Posted at 8:28 am on Jan. 6, 2009 Quote: from ambilove at 6:26 pm on Jan. 6, 2009 its just not that easy!!! 6 weeks bf is 16 nobody knows really nervous You have to tell your parents. You're a minor, so no matter what you'll still have to tell your parents. Rather sooner than later when choices can still be made. It's very important that you tell your parents. My Dreams WILL Wait Posted at 8:27 am on Jan. 6, 2009 Are you keeping the baby? Emma08x Posted at 8:26 am on Jan. 6, 2009 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations ambilove Posted at 8:26 am on Jan. 6, 2009 its just not that easy!!! 6 weeks bf is 16 nobody knows really nervous atomictastic Posted at 8:26 am on Jan. 6, 2009 I wish you the best of luck. XCyanideXLipsX Posted at 8:24 am on Jan. 6, 2009 Post from this position was omitted due to content violations Most recent 15 of 23 previous replies displayed.