Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Engagement...is this weird, or no? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 5:24 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 My bf and I were talking about engagements and marriage the other night. Some question/comment was brought up, and my answer to that was: "Men and women are completely different in their thinking. Women know that they can get engaged, and the engagement can last 2 or more years before even getting married. BUT, men think that an engagement is the actual marriage--they think that popping that question automatically means they're married..." Anyways...so my bf asked me if I was wanting to get engaged. That he's perfectly fine with getting engaged, but he doesn't want to actually get married for another 2 years (when we graduate college). Is that weird? For us to be talking about getting engaged? I don't want to be asked the question just because he thinks its what I want.....I want him to ask because its something we BOTH want.

Replies Chiefette Posted at 9:03 am on Feb. 11, 2009 You should talk about the actually act of getting engaged before you do get engaged.  You need to know each others expectations etc.  I wouldn't have accepted Mike's proposal without us talking before hand.  Let him do it when the time feels right for him.  Next time you talk about it let him  know that you are open to the idea. Anonymous Posted at 5:42 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Quote: from AcidSilence at 7:39 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 OH sorry, i thought you were younger and had this page open for a really long time and didn't read the other ones.   well... i don't think you should just be like "hey, lets get engaged" maybe he will think about it and bring it up himself? I hope. If it ever happens, I want it to be because he thought about it and wanted it...not because I mentioned it to him. And I don't really want a "planned" engagement. AcidSilence Posted at 5:39 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 OH sorry, i thought you were younger and had this page open for a really long time and didn't read the other ones. well... i don't think you should just be like "hey, lets get engaged" maybe he will think about it and bring it up himself? AcidSilence Posted at 5:37 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Dont do it!! If you guys break up, it would be more traumatic, and a bigger deal. just wait until your older if your still together. blufindr Posted at 5:34 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:31 pm on Jan. 9, 2009 We've been together nearly 2 years.   I'm 20, he's 21.   We love each other. He's been honest with me from the start...and we're each others best friend. I honestly believe that he and I are going to last. I don't think we're going to fall apart. We've already had so many talks with each other--even on the topic of cheating. Neither of us are that type, especially not to the one we love. Then go for it. Anonymous Posted at 5:31 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 Quote: from blufindr at 7:24 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 How long have you been together? How old are you? We've been together nearly 2 years. I'm 20, he's 21. We love each other. He's been honest with me from the start...and we're each others best friend. I honestly believe that he and I are going to last. I don't think we're going to fall apart. We've already had so many talks with each other--even on the topic of cheating. Neither of us are that type, especially not to the one we love. XxBrandonxX Posted at 5:28 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 its not weird and how do you kno its not what he wants? just sit down and talk to him about it and ask him if hes sure bout it and if you both are then go ahead and go with it and good luck babecakes Posted at 5:25 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 not really, unless you just met him last night and he is still in your bed. Mein Alias Posted at 5:25 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 It'll fall apart before it reaches that point. Also, it's a stupid idea. Have commitment less sex, then a relationship. Antagonize Posted at 5:24 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 It's not weird o.O A lot of couples talk about it, it's not just you. blufindr Posted at 5:24 pm on Jan. 8, 2009 How long have you been together? How old are you? All 11 previous replies displayed.