Adding Reply Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic i dont even know what to do :( Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post freak15 Posted at 9:06 am on Aug. 20, 2008 my older sister died this morning my mum and step dad still arent home and my 14 year old brother has gone for a walk so im left with my little sister and little brother and my sister is asking me why my other sister isnt coming home and i dont know what to say because whatever i say to her im going to burst into tears and i dont want to make her cry so how do i explain it to her my mums said to just say that shes gone to see the angels and stuff and tell her that are mate up there is looking after her but believe me thats easier tthan it sounds whatever i say i know im going to break my little sisters heart and i havent even been able to cry about this yet and i dont want to cry infront of her and i dont want to leave it to my mum coz my mums already really upset and i dont want to make it worse for her so someone please help :( x

Replies psychotickid555 Posted at 9:37 am on Aug. 20, 2008 im not goin to be much help, im sorry to hear she died. tennisplayerV2 Posted at 9:33 am on Aug. 20, 2008 OMG i am really really sorry...dang that seriously has to suck...i suggest you tell her ...its going to kill you but you CAN cry in front of her.  Its seriously ok...just tell her that she is safe where she is and tell her that you are here.  ITS OK to cry...just cry b4 you tell her...even if you go to the bathroom and just cry for a while...just to relieve some of it b4 you tell her...if you need me at any time i am here...i try to do anything to help...just let me know. Pebbles123 Posted at 9:27 am on Aug. 20, 2008 Quote: from freak15 at 9:06 am on Aug. 20, 2008 just say that shes gone to see the angels and stuff Aww :'( Tell her that she's "Sleeping with the angels" Thats what they told my baby cousin when my dad died. celda5 Posted at 9:15 am on Aug. 20, 2008 i would definately just explain it to her because if you say it now then if she understands it and must have time to grieve then you all can do it together whereas if you just leave it alone she will probably keep asking questions making it harder for both of you hazeleyedangel Posted at 9:14 am on Aug. 20, 2008 Quote: from freak15 at 12:10 pm on Aug. 20, 2008 Quote: from HazelEyedAngel at 9:09 am on Aug. 20, 2008 If she's six, no matter what you tell her, she's not going to understand. Children cannot understand the concept of death. hmmm shes smarter than you think when my best mate died she was upset for longer than i was :( x She's upset because she doesn't understand. Without the ability to abstract, you cannot truly understand death. I'm not saying she's not smart. I'm saying because of her age, psychologically she is not capable of understanding death. poka dot whore Posted at 9:11 am on Aug. 20, 2008 Maybe try to explain what happend. Even though they are younger and they are your family they have every right to now. Maybe just say what happend in a way that doesnt seem so bad.   ronda Posted at 9:11 am on Aug. 20, 2008 I guess its better just to explain whats happened now, she will understand it later, and it saves more heartbreak for you. Maybe by seeing you cry, it will help her understand that grieving is a natural process, and it is fine for her to cry aswell. I hope you and your family make it through, my thoughts are with you all. freak15 Posted at 9:10 am on Aug. 20, 2008 Quote: from HazelEyedAngel at 9:09 am on Aug. 20, 2008 If she's six, no matter what you tell her, she's not going to understand. Children cannot understand the concept of death. hmmm shes smarter than you think when my best mate died she was upset for longer than i was :( x hazeleyedangel Posted at 9:09 am on Aug. 20, 2008 If she's six, no matter what you tell her, she's not going to understand. Children cannot understand the concept of death. freak15 Posted at 9:09 am on Aug. 20, 2008 Quote: from The Fantasy at 9:07 am on Aug. 20, 2008 If she died this morning what the fuck are you doing on livewire?! well i cant actualy get out because my mum doesnt want me at the hospital and i have to look after my brother and sister and if im not on here im going to have to go and talk to my sister and i dont want to :( x freak15 Posted at 9:08 am on Aug. 20, 2008 Quote: from Pardon my French at 9:07 am on Aug. 20, 2008 Do it over a cup of tea. That is the English way. shes six and she doesnt like tea x AngelofUnmercy Posted at 9:08 am on Aug. 20, 2008 i'm very sorry for your loss The Fantasy Posted at 9:07 am on Aug. 20, 2008 If she died this morning what the fuck are you doing on livewire?! acalypha Posted at 9:07 am on Aug. 20, 2008 tell her she's gone to a better place tropicalbreezze2 Posted at 9:07 am on Aug. 20, 2008 I'm so sorry I don't know what to do to help, but I will pray for you and your family Most recent 15 of 16 previous replies displayed.