Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic Feeling like I cant cope anymore [advice needed] Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]Autumnal[/m] at 12:46 pm on Oct. 2, 2008[quote]my close friend has just found herself in the same situation. you need your close friends or someone you can trust to get it all out. it will make you feel better, and try and take your mind off him. it will be hard but just take it as it comes. it will get better. x[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 12:42 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Right now i am finding it impossible to get out of this unhappiness. Im constantly feeling ill and i feel so down. recently, my Boyfriend [who i adore so much!] decided that we shouldnt be together. To cut a long story short, we have just been having a bad time atm, and i didnt want us to break up. And well.. I really need him. Ive told him this and everything. But i am soo depressed about not being with him. I just want to be happy again. But i feel so down. I can't stop feeling really depressed. Its like my life is completely usless, and worthless. I really dont know what to do. -and i dont want to go to the Doctors about it either- Please. someone help me!

Replies BranMan Posted at 7:43 pm on Oct. 3, 2008 All I can really tell you is tough love. He apparently doesn't like you how you like him and that's that. You could try talking to him about it and see if you can work things out. Sooner or later you will get over him and find somebody else that you like as much, or possibly even more, than you like him. Try telling him that you need him to help with your problems but if he doesn't want to, try talking to somebody else that you can trust. Just wait a couple of days and he might realize that he liked you more than he thought and will end up missing you. He could just have been having a bad day or something has been bothering him. Just give it some time and see where things go. If nothing happens, there's not really much that you can do about it. I also read where you said you have nobody else to talk to. If you need to talk to somebody, you can talk to me. I'll try to help you as much as I can. I hope you feel better! fenrir Posted at 1:43 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 2:42 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Right now i am finding it impossible to get out of this unhappiness.   Im constantly feeling ill and i feel so down.   recently, my Boyfriend [who i adore so much!] decided that we shouldnt be together.   To cut a long story short, we have just been having a bad time atm, and i didnt want us to break up. And well.. I really need him.   Ive told him this and everything. But i am soo depressed about not being with him.   I just want to be happy again. But i feel so down. I can't stop feeling really depressed.   Its like my life is completely usless, and worthless.     I really dont know what to do.   -and i dont want to go to the Doctors about it either- Please. someone help me! I'd first like to begin by asking if you've ever been officially diagnosed with medical depression before suggesting possible actions following your immediate problem.  Having not been active on this particular forum or the ability to see who you are personally, I cannot with clear conscience be able to give an indefinite solution to an incomplete situation. As for your personal issues, I am first genuinely sorry that you feel utterly alone.  I can only imagine what it must be like for you, because I realize that my personal experiences cannot necessarily compare interchangeably besides relative comparison.  However, if it is your boyfriend's decision to break off a relationship, you should respect his wishes to leave if you want any possibility of future involvement.  I'm reminded of the two great cliches "It is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved." or "If you love someone enough, you should be willing to let them go just as freely." Why?  Because one's decision to be in a relationship with you is a commitment between two consenting partners in search of a positive and healthy interpersonal interactions amongst themselves.  When one wishes to sever such ties, the relationship is no longer an equal connection between one another, but dominant on one side instead.  No love can last when it falls solely on one side to maintain regardless of intentions or desire to uphold such commitment.  One my request for a friendship to resume, but that is ultimately left up to the other's discretion, not yours.  My advice is for you to first find someone who you care about and are willing to share with thoroughly the same manner you might find via LiveWire, but this is merely a tool to help you assess your particular situation.  What you truly need is face-to-face interaction along with a form of therapy one might find from pursuing a hobby, reading/conversing over a good book, exercise, etc. in order to promote healthy interactions with those around you. As for your desire not to seek professional help whether by psychoanalytical therapy, consultations with psychiatrists and/or psychologists, or seeking to medically treat your depressive state, I cannot with clear conscience not mention this as a reasonable alternative to simply nothingness.  Happiness is attainable even in our darkest moments.  What we must learn for ourselves is to find how to go about accomplishing such feats seemingly beyond our immediate grasp in life.  If nothing else you read and disregard what all I've suggested, do remember that you're certainly not alone and you have this person above all else to help you through your trying time the very best I can hope to accomplish. filliam Posted at 1:00 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Violently Happy at 12:45 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Stop being so pathetic. You don't NEED anyone in your life but yourself. You need to become stronger and only then will you be okay. grow up.  thats no fucking advice for someone that is down. I'm sure you'll feel happy in the future, just sometimes you need to endure hard times. Autumnal Posted at 12:56 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 im sorry i dont know what else to suggest. D: just talking here helps I suppose to get it all out. just be strong. things will always pick up. there are plenty more fish in the sea! xx best of luck! Anonymous Posted at 12:53 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 not really =[, cuz my bf was the only person i could talk to. he's my best mate, and hes the only person i have to talk to =s HeartofJuyoMk2 Posted at 12:53 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Quote: from Anonymous at 12:45 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 why?!! MAYBE YOU SHOULD TRY BEING SOMEONE THAT HAS BEEN REJECTED!!! and so what if we get committed. maybe guys should learn to stick with their Gfs =_= I have been rejected, many times, but being attached like that is foolish. Learn to stick with their gfs? That's retarded, some times it just doesnt work out. Autumnal Posted at 12:52 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 im sorry. :( do you have a sister or someone close you can talk to? Anonymous Posted at 12:50 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 i dunno. ive tried being really nice to them and trying to get them to hang around with me. But they just dont want to =/ Autumnal Posted at 12:49 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 maybee. try and organize something where you can spend time with them? like going shopping or to the cinema or just a walk or something. Anonymous Posted at 12:49 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 Thank you xx Autumnal Posted at 12:48 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 seriously. your all being very harsh. this person has obviously gorwn to love her bf. you dont know anything about what their relationship was like. people do become very dependant on their 'other half' after a serious relationship. Anonymous Posted at 12:48 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 the thing is.. my mates want nothing to do with me atm. and i dont know why. some of them are just igoring me and everything. Autumnal Posted at 12:46 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 my close friend has just found herself in the same situation. you need your close friends or someone you can trust to get it all out. it will make you feel better, and try and take your mind off him. it will be hard but just take it as it comes. it will get better. x LaWhoren Posted at 12:46 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 get over it Anonymous Posted at 12:45 pm on Oct. 2, 2008 why?!! MAYBE YOU SHOULD TRY BEING SOMEONE THAT HAS BEEN REJECTED!!! and so what if we get committed. maybe guys should learn to stick with their Gfs =_= Most recent 15 of 18 previous replies displayed.