Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic I can't trust anyone Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [m]mcrdude[/m] at 4:36 pm on Oct. 5, 2008[quote]After my best friends ditched me i've never trusted anyone not even my twin sister. I just can't trust that people see me as a friend and there are some secrets that i just don't want to tell people even someone thats been one of my best mates for almost 10 years. Everyone says they trust me, and to be honest they can, i never bitch and i've kept the secrets of my worst enemies, i guess i thought once that everyone was as trustworthy as me and got hurt because they weren't, but i now i don't trust anyone. Recently someone asked me who i trusted most, just after them telling me they trusted me the most and i didn't answer and i think they got hurt and told me that it was a really bad thing not to be able to trust people, and i probably should trust them, i just don't because i'm too scared of getting hurt again. is it a problem and if so how can i fix it[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post mcrdude Posted at 4:36 pm on Oct. 5, 2008 After my best friends ditched me i've never trusted anyone not even my twin sister. I just can't trust that people see me as a friend and there are some secrets that i just don't want to tell people even someone thats been one of my best mates for almost 10 years. Everyone says they trust me, and to be honest they can, i never bitch and i've kept the secrets of my worst enemies, i guess i thought once that everyone was as trustworthy as me and got hurt because they weren't, but i now i don't trust anyone. Recently someone asked me who i trusted most, just after them telling me they trusted me the most and i didn't answer and i think they got hurt and told me that it was a really bad thing not to be able to trust people, and i probably should trust them, i just don't because i'm too scared of getting hurt again. is it a problem and if so how can i fix it

Replies ininjateddybear Posted at 5:22 pm on Oct. 7, 2008 I feel the exact same way :( VirtusInternus Posted at 10:40 pm on Oct. 6, 2008 only trust yourself and if you can't do that so well, i've been there, then your fuct mcrdude Posted at 11:26 am on Oct. 6, 2008 bump mcrdude Posted at 4:59 pm on Oct. 5, 2008 Quote: from The Oath at 4:47 pm on Oct. 5, 2008 But to be fair, you're being a moron. You went from thinking you can trust everyone to thinking you can trust no one on the basis of one or a few bad experiences. Both of these viewpoints are excessively short-sighted, and dare I say simple.   I find that people are unusual in that they think trust is this big issue, and if it's broken, think it's the end of the world. People chatter, gossip, and make mistakes. There is really no surprise there. I always make an attempt to not lie or gossip, and I'm a hell of a lot better at stopping myself than most people. However, I don't expect everyone else to go to such lengths as me, and so I'm never surprised if I tell person Y that I don't like person X, and person X finds out somehow miraculously (nor do I get angry at person Y). i understand what your saying, i know i should trust people more, but i was incredibly naive before and the experience shook me a lot, it was very complicated, i taught me not to be so naive but i went to the exact opposite. It's more that i don't trust people not to hurt me, as i trusted my bestest ever friends to look out for me, not to lie to me, to stick by me and more importantly, never to deliberatly hurt my feelings just for kicks, and they let me down, if i couldn't trust them, who can i trust. filliam Posted at 4:52 pm on Oct. 5, 2008 I feel a little that way.  Three of the people that I trusted most last year fucked me over in pretty bad ways.  It sucks, but I figure seeing as I'm in high school, none of my current friendships will really last.  I have found that I just start to accept that I don't want to let any friends close because I can't trust that they won't fuck me over.  Hope that helps The Oath Posted at 4:47 pm on Oct. 5, 2008 But to be fair, you're being a moron. You went from thinking you can trust everyone to thinking you can trust no one on the basis of one or a few bad experiences. Both of these viewpoints are excessively short-sighted, and dare I say simple. I find that people are unusual in that they think trust is this big issue, and if it's broken, think it's the end of the world. People chatter, gossip, and make mistakes. There is really no surprise there. I always make an attempt to not lie or gossip, and I'm a hell of a lot better at stopping myself than most people. However, I don't expect everyone else to go to such lengths as me, and so I'm never surprised if I tell person Y that I don't like person X, and person X finds out somehow miraculously (nor do I get angry at person Y). The Oath Posted at 4:38 pm on Oct. 5, 2008 My rule of thumb is never tell anyone anything, unless you don't care if the whole world knows. All 7 previous replies displayed.