Quoting Post Archived Topic: It will not be bumped to the top of the forum. Topic How do I help him? Membername   Not a member? Sign Up Free (takes 20 seconds) Password   Forgotten your password? Post Font: Verdana Arial Black Georgia Comic Sans Impact   Size: Tiny Normal Big Huge   Color: Default Dark Red Red Orange Brown Green Olive Cyan Blue Dark Blue Indigo Black [ Check Spelling ] [ Post Preview ] [ LiveTags ] Quote: from [mod]The Oath[/mod] at 6:53 pm on Oct. 10, 2008[quote]Quote: from [m]angieelahh[/m] at 9:36 pm on Oct. 10, 2008[quote]Quote: from [m]l2me3[/m] at 6:32 pm on Oct. 10, 2008[quote]Sounds like something that would be better when talked with experts and doctors.[/quote]  :biggrin: what i woulda said. [/quote] Is this supposed to be a joke? Of course a romantic partner is going to want, nay, [i]need[/i] to talk to their partner about their depression or mood. A specialist would help, but a specialist and a girlfriend are not mutually exclusive when it comes to talking about feelings, particularly harmful ones such as suicide. In any event, I think you ought to simply bring it up to him, unless he is one of those sorts that simply detests talking about feelings and emotions. At best you'll both gain a better understanding of eachother's thoughts in regards to the issue, at worst he'll think it's cute that you care.[/quote] FAQ Keyword Search: Post Options Favorites Manager Notify me of new replies to this topic by email Notify me of new replies to this topic by private message Original Post Anonymous Posted at 6:30 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 My boyfriend is suicidal. I've heard him say it before. Depression runs in his family. He's taken medication and dealt with it for a long time. It's almost like it doesn't bother him. That scares me. It's not in a "Oh, don't worry about it; I'm depressed but it's not big deal." He thinks that dying young is perfectly fine. I don't understand it. I can't stand it. I've tried to talk to him about it; I've listened to him. It doesn't make sense. Someone explain it to me. We don't talk about it directly, though. I don't know how I'm supposed to help him. I feel like we need to talk about it. I'm very worried about him.

Replies The Oath Posted at 6:53 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 Quote: from angieelahh at 9:36 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 Quote: from l2me3 at 6:32 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 Sounds like something that would be better when talked with experts and doctors.   what i woulda said. Is this supposed to be a joke? Of course a romantic partner is going to want, nay, need to talk to their partner about their depression or mood. A specialist would help, but a specialist and a girlfriend are not mutually exclusive when it comes to talking about feelings, particularly harmful ones such as suicide. In any event, I think you ought to simply bring it up to him, unless he is one of those sorts that simply detests talking about feelings and emotions. At best you'll both gain a better understanding of eachother's thoughts in regards to the issue, at worst he'll think it's cute that you care. JTHM Posted at 6:42 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 I was very much the same way for a long time. Many people who've lived through suicidal bouts see life and death differently, so while he might seem too comfortable with the idea to you, it doesn't necessarily mean he's hoping to harm himself. Of course, I only know as little as you've said in this post, so I could be wrong, but having been in a similar position, it's important to see that if he's willing to talk to you about it at all, definitely take advantage of the opportunity. Talk to him more and if you get nothing from him, speak directly to someone in his family (if any) whom he trusts the most. Although he might become mad at you for doing so, it is in his best interest and you're simply concerned about him, as you have every right to be. Other than speaking to him, there isn't much you can do directly. A lot of times, just having someone around who genuinely cares for them is enough to deter people from harming themselves. Tread carefully when it comes to the specific topic of suicide, but do not take lightly any mention of depression or unhappiness. If he begins acting strange and you sincerely believe something to be amiss, call someone who has the power to stop him, whether it is a school counselor or a family member, or even his own doctor. Just be open with him and let him know that he isn't alone in it; that he has you. Best wishes for the both of you. I hope his situation improves. angieelahh Posted at 6:36 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 Quote: from l2me3 at 6:32 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 Sounds like something that would be better when talked with experts and doctors.  what i woulda said. switchfoot52 Posted at 6:34 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 nobody can tell im depressed or suicidal either. im going on meds but ur bf should talk to his dr about his feelings of suicide. and he should see a counselor l2me3 Posted at 6:32 pm on Oct. 10, 2008 Sounds like something that would be better when talked with experts and doctors. All 5 previous replies displayed.